Welcome to ADHD Realities , the podcast where ADHD and sexuality collide in the most empowering, brain friendly way possible. Hosted by Sexologist, Certified Sex Therapist, and Psychotherapist Leann Borneman, this space is all about unmasking, unlearning, and unleashing your full neurodivergent self, in and out of the bedroom. We live in a world built for neurotypicals, and that narrative has been bringing you down for way too long. Here, we challenge those norms, call out the shame they create, and replace them with tools and truths that actually work for your beautifully wired brain. If you’ve ever felt like your ADHD made intimacy, communication, or self-worth harder, you’re not alone, and you’re definitely not broken. This podcast gives you the full lens, psychological, relational, and sexual, to finally understand your experiences through the ADHD perspective you should’ve had all along. It’s time to stop people pleasing, start permission giving, and take up space, authentically, awkwardly, and unapologetically..
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Welcome to ADHD Realities , the podcast where ADHD and sexuality collide in the most empowering, brain friendly way possible. Hosted by Sexologist, Certified Sex Therapist, and Psychotherapist Leann Borneman, this space is all about unmasking, unlearning, and unleashing your full neurodivergent self, in and out of the bedroom. We live in a world built for neurotypicals, and that narrative has been bringing you down for way too long. Here, we challenge those norms, call out the shame they create, and replace them with tools and truths that actually work for your beautifully wired brain. If you’ve ever felt like your ADHD made intimacy, communication, or self-worth harder, you’re not alone, and you’re definitely not broken. This podcast gives you the full lens, psychological, relational, and sexual, to finally understand your experiences through the ADHD perspective you should’ve had all along. It’s time to stop people pleasing, start permission giving, and take up space, authentically, awkwardly, and unapologetically..
DISCLAIMER: This podcast is for educational purposes only. It is not a substitute for therapy or professional support.
"If You Cared, You Would…”: The ADHD Relationship Lie That’s Breaking Us
ADHD Realities
23 minutes 55 seconds
6 months ago
"If You Cared, You Would…”: The ADHD Relationship Lie That’s Breaking Us
In this no-BS solo episode, I dive headfirst into the relationship narrative that’s wrecking ADHD partnerships... the idea that ”if you cared, you’d just show it.”
You probably do care. Your executive function is just struggling with the neurotypical expectations attached.
I break down why ADHD brains struggle with “prioritizing” in the ways neurotypical society expects by explaining the real role of executive function barriers, environmental cues, and those WTF moments.
This episode is packed with:
Real talk about working memory, task initiation, and time blindness
ADHD-friendly ways to actually show up for your partner (without shame)
Why forgetting isn’t failing—and planning your love is still love
A solid reminder that intention does not equal execution, but both deserve compassion
Whether you’re the ADHD partner feeling like you’re constantly falling short, or the one wondering why your person never “just remembers,” this episode is a must-listen.
Because your love is real.
You just need a roadmap—and maybe a few post-it notes.
👉 Share this with your partner (or therapist). Let’s rewrite what prioritizing love actually looks like for ADHD brains.
ADHD Realities
Welcome to ADHD Realities , the podcast where ADHD and sexuality collide in the most empowering, brain friendly way possible. Hosted by Sexologist, Certified Sex Therapist, and Psychotherapist Leann Borneman, this space is all about unmasking, unlearning, and unleashing your full neurodivergent self, in and out of the bedroom. We live in a world built for neurotypicals, and that narrative has been bringing you down for way too long. Here, we challenge those norms, call out the shame they create, and replace them with tools and truths that actually work for your beautifully wired brain. If you’ve ever felt like your ADHD made intimacy, communication, or self-worth harder, you’re not alone, and you’re definitely not broken. This podcast gives you the full lens, psychological, relational, and sexual, to finally understand your experiences through the ADHD perspective you should’ve had all along. It’s time to stop people pleasing, start permission giving, and take up space, authentically, awkwardly, and unapologetically..
DISCLAIMER: This podcast is for educational purposes only. It is not a substitute for therapy or professional support.