Welcome to ADHD Realities , the podcast where ADHD and sexuality collide in the most empowering, brain friendly way possible. Hosted by Sexologist, Certified Sex Therapist, and Psychotherapist Leann Borneman, this space is all about unmasking, unlearning, and unleashing your full neurodivergent self, in and out of the bedroom. We live in a world built for neurotypicals, and that narrative has been bringing you down for way too long. Here, we challenge those norms, call out the shame they create, and replace them with tools and truths that actually work for your beautifully wired brain. If you’ve ever felt like your ADHD made intimacy, communication, or self-worth harder, you’re not alone, and you’re definitely not broken. This podcast gives you the full lens, psychological, relational, and sexual, to finally understand your experiences through the ADHD perspective you should’ve had all along. It’s time to stop people pleasing, start permission giving, and take up space, authentically, awkwardly, and unapologetically..
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Welcome to ADHD Realities , the podcast where ADHD and sexuality collide in the most empowering, brain friendly way possible. Hosted by Sexologist, Certified Sex Therapist, and Psychotherapist Leann Borneman, this space is all about unmasking, unlearning, and unleashing your full neurodivergent self, in and out of the bedroom. We live in a world built for neurotypicals, and that narrative has been bringing you down for way too long. Here, we challenge those norms, call out the shame they create, and replace them with tools and truths that actually work for your beautifully wired brain. If you’ve ever felt like your ADHD made intimacy, communication, or self-worth harder, you’re not alone, and you’re definitely not broken. This podcast gives you the full lens, psychological, relational, and sexual, to finally understand your experiences through the ADHD perspective you should’ve had all along. It’s time to stop people pleasing, start permission giving, and take up space, authentically, awkwardly, and unapologetically..
DISCLAIMER: This podcast is for educational purposes only. It is not a substitute for therapy or professional support.
When Receiving Oral Feels Like a Task: ADHD, Sensory Overload, and the Pressure to “Just Relax”
ADHD Realities
1 hour 27 minutes 36 seconds
6 months ago
When Receiving Oral Feels Like a Task: ADHD, Sensory Overload, and the Pressure to “Just Relax”
Why does receiving oral feel like work for so many vulva owners with ADHD? This episode unpacks it all: the sensory chaos, the internal monologue that won’t quit, the vulnerability overload, and the executive dysfunction that makes ”just enjoy it” feel like a cruel joke.
I dive deep into:
How gender scripts, shame, and ADHD intersect in the bedroom
Why “let go and enjoy” is NOT trauma-informed advice
What overstimulation, masking, and delayed self-awareness look like during oral
Real talk on orgasm grief, communication challenges, and reclaiming your pleasure
If you’ve ever tapped out mid-oral because your nervous system was screaming louder than your partner’s praise, this one’s for you. You are not broken. Your brain just wasn’t designed for the script you’ve been handed.
Content note: This episode contains honest conversation, humor, and a whole lot of validation, but is not a substitute for therapy. Please work with a qualified professional if you’re experiencing distress.
ADHD Realities
Welcome to ADHD Realities , the podcast where ADHD and sexuality collide in the most empowering, brain friendly way possible. Hosted by Sexologist, Certified Sex Therapist, and Psychotherapist Leann Borneman, this space is all about unmasking, unlearning, and unleashing your full neurodivergent self, in and out of the bedroom. We live in a world built for neurotypicals, and that narrative has been bringing you down for way too long. Here, we challenge those norms, call out the shame they create, and replace them with tools and truths that actually work for your beautifully wired brain. If you’ve ever felt like your ADHD made intimacy, communication, or self-worth harder, you’re not alone, and you’re definitely not broken. This podcast gives you the full lens, psychological, relational, and sexual, to finally understand your experiences through the ADHD perspective you should’ve had all along. It’s time to stop people pleasing, start permission giving, and take up space, authentically, awkwardly, and unapologetically..
DISCLAIMER: This podcast is for educational purposes only. It is not a substitute for therapy or professional support.
