Dave Prior, Agile Trainer, Consultant and Project Manager
264 episodes
2 weeks ago
In this engaging conversation, Dave Prior and Lonnie Weaver-Johnson delve into the complexities of giving and receiving feedback. They explore personal experiences, the emotional challenges associated with feedback, and practical strategies for improving feedback dynamics. Lonnie shares her insights on the importance of mindset, recognizing triggers, and the four Rs of feedback: recognize, receive, react, and respond. The discussion emphasizes the value of self-awareness and the need for constructive communication in both personal and professional settings.
Takeaways
- Feedback can be life-changing if handled positively.
- Many people struggle with receiving positive feedback.
- It's crucial to learn how to accept feedback in various settings.
- Feedback givers can help receivers by being mindful of their delivery.
- The receiver ultimately controls how they handle feedback.
- Compartmentalizing feedback can help in processing it effectively.
- Recognizing triggers can aid in managing emotional responses to feedback.
- Practicing self-talk can help combat negative internal feedback.
- It's okay to ask for time to process feedback before responding.
- Showing gratitude for feedback, even if it's hard to hear, can be beneficial.
Chapters
02:49 Introduction to Feedback Dynamics
05:35 The Importance of Receiving Feedback
8:26 Navigating Negative Feedback
11:40 Personal Stories and Lessons Learned
13:54 Triggers and Reactions to Feedback
16:38 The Four Rs of Feedback
19:42 Responding to Feedback Effectively
22:29 Self-Feedback and Positive Reinforcement
Links
Lonnie’s Session at 2025 PMI Global Summit
Beyond Going Through the Motions: Create Retrospectives That Lead To Change
https://pmiglobalsummit.gcs-web.com/program/agenda#sess61853976
Dave and Stuart’s Book
No One Is Coming to Save You: Power-ups to help surf the chaos
Dave’s classes (CSM, CSPO, A-CSPO, PMP, PMI-ACP)
https://www.eventbrite.com/cc/dave-prior-classes-4758623
Contacting Lonnie
LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/lonnieweaverjohnson/
Web: https://www.lonniewj.com/
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In this engaging conversation, Dave Prior and Lonnie Weaver-Johnson delve into the complexities of giving and receiving feedback. They explore personal experiences, the emotional challenges associated with feedback, and practical strategies for improving feedback dynamics. Lonnie shares her insights on the importance of mindset, recognizing triggers, and the four Rs of feedback: recognize, receive, react, and respond. The discussion emphasizes the value of self-awareness and the need for constructive communication in both personal and professional settings.
Takeaways
- Feedback can be life-changing if handled positively.
- Many people struggle with receiving positive feedback.
- It's crucial to learn how to accept feedback in various settings.
- Feedback givers can help receivers by being mindful of their delivery.
- The receiver ultimately controls how they handle feedback.
- Compartmentalizing feedback can help in processing it effectively.
- Recognizing triggers can aid in managing emotional responses to feedback.
- Practicing self-talk can help combat negative internal feedback.
- It's okay to ask for time to process feedback before responding.
- Showing gratitude for feedback, even if it's hard to hear, can be beneficial.
Chapters
02:49 Introduction to Feedback Dynamics
05:35 The Importance of Receiving Feedback
8:26 Navigating Negative Feedback
11:40 Personal Stories and Lessons Learned
13:54 Triggers and Reactions to Feedback
16:38 The Four Rs of Feedback
19:42 Responding to Feedback Effectively
22:29 Self-Feedback and Positive Reinforcement
Links
Lonnie’s Session at 2025 PMI Global Summit
Beyond Going Through the Motions: Create Retrospectives That Lead To Change
https://pmiglobalsummit.gcs-web.com/program/agenda#sess61853976
Dave and Stuart’s Book
No One Is Coming to Save You: Power-ups to help surf the chaos
Dave’s classes (CSM, CSPO, A-CSPO, PMP, PMI-ACP)
https://www.eventbrite.com/cc/dave-prior-classes-4758623
Contacting Lonnie
LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/lonnieweaverjohnson/
Web: https://www.lonniewj.com/
David Marquet - Distancing - How Great Leaders Reframe to Make Better Decisions
Agile and Project Management - DrunkenPM Radio
36 minutes 34 seconds
3 months ago
David Marquet - Distancing - How Great Leaders Reframe to Make Better Decisions
In this conversation, David Marquet shares his transformative leadership journey from commanding the Santa Fe submarine, one of the worst performers in the fleet, to implementing a culture of empowerment and accountability. He discusses the importance of shifting from a language of permission to a language of intent, encouraging leaders to empower their teams to think critically and make decisions. Marquet emphasizes the significance of mindset, distance, and self-coaching in effective decision-making, and how visualizing problems can lead to better solutions. The discussion culminates in practical advice for creating a culture of accountability and fostering a proactive mindset within teams.
Takeaways
Leadership is about inspiring teams, not just giving orders.
The language of permission can stifle innovation and accountability.
Empower your team to think critically and make decisions.
Mindset and distance are crucial for effective decision-making.
Coaching yourself can lead to better outcomes.
Visualizing problems helps in understanding and solving them.
Creating a culture of accountability is essential for success.
Encourage a language of intent over a language of permission.
Fresh perspectives can lead to innovative solutions.
Transformational leadership requires a shift in mindset and language.
LINKS
Distancing - How Great Leaders Reframe to Make Better Decisions by L. David Marquet and Michael A. Gillespie https://tinyurl.com/wtadnumb
You can check out the interview with David’s co-author, Michael Gillespie, here: https://on.soundcloud.com/zb166tQR3Ce8gp0tHd
Contacting L. David Marquet
Web: https://davidmarquet.com
LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/davidmarquet/
Amazon: https://tinyurl.com/4ezbp4a9
Contacting Michael Gillespie
University of South Florida: https://tinyurl.com/yds54cbe
LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/michael-gillespie-78661a4/
Agile and Project Management - DrunkenPM Radio
In this engaging conversation, Dave Prior and Lonnie Weaver-Johnson delve into the complexities of giving and receiving feedback. They explore personal experiences, the emotional challenges associated with feedback, and practical strategies for improving feedback dynamics. Lonnie shares her insights on the importance of mindset, recognizing triggers, and the four Rs of feedback: recognize, receive, react, and respond. The discussion emphasizes the value of self-awareness and the need for constructive communication in both personal and professional settings.
Takeaways
- Feedback can be life-changing if handled positively.
- Many people struggle with receiving positive feedback.
- It's crucial to learn how to accept feedback in various settings.
- Feedback givers can help receivers by being mindful of their delivery.
- The receiver ultimately controls how they handle feedback.
- Compartmentalizing feedback can help in processing it effectively.
- Recognizing triggers can aid in managing emotional responses to feedback.
- Practicing self-talk can help combat negative internal feedback.
- It's okay to ask for time to process feedback before responding.
- Showing gratitude for feedback, even if it's hard to hear, can be beneficial.
Chapters
02:49 Introduction to Feedback Dynamics
05:35 The Importance of Receiving Feedback
8:26 Navigating Negative Feedback
11:40 Personal Stories and Lessons Learned
13:54 Triggers and Reactions to Feedback
16:38 The Four Rs of Feedback
19:42 Responding to Feedback Effectively
22:29 Self-Feedback and Positive Reinforcement
Links
Lonnie’s Session at 2025 PMI Global Summit
Beyond Going Through the Motions: Create Retrospectives That Lead To Change
https://pmiglobalsummit.gcs-web.com/program/agenda#sess61853976
Dave and Stuart’s Book
No One Is Coming to Save You: Power-ups to help surf the chaos
Dave’s classes (CSM, CSPO, A-CSPO, PMP, PMI-ACP)
https://www.eventbrite.com/cc/dave-prior-classes-4758623
Contacting Lonnie
LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/lonnieweaverjohnson/
Web: https://www.lonniewj.com/
