Dave Prior, Agile Trainer, Consultant and Project Manager
264 episodes
2 weeks ago
In this engaging conversation, Dave Prior and Lonnie Weaver-Johnson delve into the complexities of giving and receiving feedback. They explore personal experiences, the emotional challenges associated with feedback, and practical strategies for improving feedback dynamics. Lonnie shares her insights on the importance of mindset, recognizing triggers, and the four Rs of feedback: recognize, receive, react, and respond. The discussion emphasizes the value of self-awareness and the need for constructive communication in both personal and professional settings.
Takeaways
- Feedback can be life-changing if handled positively.
- Many people struggle with receiving positive feedback.
- It's crucial to learn how to accept feedback in various settings.
- Feedback givers can help receivers by being mindful of their delivery.
- The receiver ultimately controls how they handle feedback.
- Compartmentalizing feedback can help in processing it effectively.
- Recognizing triggers can aid in managing emotional responses to feedback.
- Practicing self-talk can help combat negative internal feedback.
- It's okay to ask for time to process feedback before responding.
- Showing gratitude for feedback, even if it's hard to hear, can be beneficial.
Chapters
02:49 Introduction to Feedback Dynamics
05:35 The Importance of Receiving Feedback
8:26 Navigating Negative Feedback
11:40 Personal Stories and Lessons Learned
13:54 Triggers and Reactions to Feedback
16:38 The Four Rs of Feedback
19:42 Responding to Feedback Effectively
22:29 Self-Feedback and Positive Reinforcement
Links
Lonnie’s Session at 2025 PMI Global Summit
Beyond Going Through the Motions: Create Retrospectives That Lead To Change
https://pmiglobalsummit.gcs-web.com/program/agenda#sess61853976
Dave and Stuart’s Book
No One Is Coming to Save You: Power-ups to help surf the chaos
Dave’s classes (CSM, CSPO, A-CSPO, PMP, PMI-ACP)
https://www.eventbrite.com/cc/dave-prior-classes-4758623
Contacting Lonnie
LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/lonnieweaverjohnson/
Web: https://www.lonniewj.com/
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In this engaging conversation, Dave Prior and Lonnie Weaver-Johnson delve into the complexities of giving and receiving feedback. They explore personal experiences, the emotional challenges associated with feedback, and practical strategies for improving feedback dynamics. Lonnie shares her insights on the importance of mindset, recognizing triggers, and the four Rs of feedback: recognize, receive, react, and respond. The discussion emphasizes the value of self-awareness and the need for constructive communication in both personal and professional settings.
Takeaways
- Feedback can be life-changing if handled positively.
- Many people struggle with receiving positive feedback.
- It's crucial to learn how to accept feedback in various settings.
- Feedback givers can help receivers by being mindful of their delivery.
- The receiver ultimately controls how they handle feedback.
- Compartmentalizing feedback can help in processing it effectively.
- Recognizing triggers can aid in managing emotional responses to feedback.
- Practicing self-talk can help combat negative internal feedback.
- It's okay to ask for time to process feedback before responding.
- Showing gratitude for feedback, even if it's hard to hear, can be beneficial.
Chapters
02:49 Introduction to Feedback Dynamics
05:35 The Importance of Receiving Feedback
8:26 Navigating Negative Feedback
11:40 Personal Stories and Lessons Learned
13:54 Triggers and Reactions to Feedback
16:38 The Four Rs of Feedback
19:42 Responding to Feedback Effectively
22:29 Self-Feedback and Positive Reinforcement
Links
Lonnie’s Session at 2025 PMI Global Summit
Beyond Going Through the Motions: Create Retrospectives That Lead To Change
https://pmiglobalsummit.gcs-web.com/program/agenda#sess61853976
Dave and Stuart’s Book
No One Is Coming to Save You: Power-ups to help surf the chaos
Dave’s classes (CSM, CSPO, A-CSPO, PMP, PMI-ACP)
https://www.eventbrite.com/cc/dave-prior-classes-4758623
Contacting Lonnie
LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/lonnieweaverjohnson/
Web: https://www.lonniewj.com/
Distancing - How Great Leaders Reframe to Make Better Decisions with Dr. Michael Gillespie
Agile and Project Management - DrunkenPM Radio
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Distancing - How Great Leaders Reframe to Make Better Decisions with Dr. Michael Gillespie
In this episode, Dave interviews Dr. Michael Gillespie about his book 'Distancing - How Great Leaders Reframe to Make Better Decisions', which explores psychological distancing as a tool for better decision-making. They discuss the importance of stepping outside one's own perspective to gain clarity, the different types of distancing (self, time, and space), and practical applications of these techniques. The conversation also touches on the role of journaling, the significance of construal level theory, and how mindfulness can complement these strategies. Ultimately, the discussion emphasizes the need for individuals to pause and reflect in order to make more informed decisions.
Takeaways
• Psychological distancing helps individuals see situations more clearly.
• Mindfulness is beneficial, but not always sufficient for immediate decision-making.
• There are three primary types of distancing: self, time, and space.
• Journaling in the third person can enhance self-awareness and clarity.
• Construal level theory explains the difference between high-level abstract thinking and low-level concrete thinking.
• Taking a pause is crucial in emotionally charged situations.
• Practicing distancing techniques can lead to better emotional regulation.
• Being a 'fly on the wall' can provide valuable perspective in difficult moments.
• It's important to normalize the practice of pausing in group settings.
• The ultimate goal is to make better decisions and improve overall well-being.
LINKS
Distancing - How Great Leaders Reframe to Make Better Decisions by L. David Marquet and Michael A. Gillespie https://tinyurl.com/wtadnumb
Contacting Michael Gillespie
University of South Florida: https://tinyurl.com/yds54cbe
LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/michael-gillespie-78661a4/
Contacting L. David Marquet
Web: https://davidmarquet.com
LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/davidmarquet/
Amazon: https://tinyurl.com/4ezbp4a9
Agile and Project Management - DrunkenPM Radio
In this engaging conversation, Dave Prior and Lonnie Weaver-Johnson delve into the complexities of giving and receiving feedback. They explore personal experiences, the emotional challenges associated with feedback, and practical strategies for improving feedback dynamics. Lonnie shares her insights on the importance of mindset, recognizing triggers, and the four Rs of feedback: recognize, receive, react, and respond. The discussion emphasizes the value of self-awareness and the need for constructive communication in both personal and professional settings.
Takeaways
- Feedback can be life-changing if handled positively.
- Many people struggle with receiving positive feedback.
- It's crucial to learn how to accept feedback in various settings.
- Feedback givers can help receivers by being mindful of their delivery.
- The receiver ultimately controls how they handle feedback.
- Compartmentalizing feedback can help in processing it effectively.
- Recognizing triggers can aid in managing emotional responses to feedback.
- Practicing self-talk can help combat negative internal feedback.
- It's okay to ask for time to process feedback before responding.
- Showing gratitude for feedback, even if it's hard to hear, can be beneficial.
Chapters
02:49 Introduction to Feedback Dynamics
05:35 The Importance of Receiving Feedback
8:26 Navigating Negative Feedback
11:40 Personal Stories and Lessons Learned
13:54 Triggers and Reactions to Feedback
16:38 The Four Rs of Feedback
19:42 Responding to Feedback Effectively
22:29 Self-Feedback and Positive Reinforcement
Links
Lonnie’s Session at 2025 PMI Global Summit
Beyond Going Through the Motions: Create Retrospectives That Lead To Change
https://pmiglobalsummit.gcs-web.com/program/agenda#sess61853976
Dave and Stuart’s Book
No One Is Coming to Save You: Power-ups to help surf the chaos
Dave’s classes (CSM, CSPO, A-CSPO, PMP, PMI-ACP)
https://www.eventbrite.com/cc/dave-prior-classes-4758623
Contacting Lonnie
LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/lonnieweaverjohnson/
Web: https://www.lonniewj.com/
