Heather Rafael guides listeners through the 11/11 identity portal, showing how to shift from people-pleasing to embodied standards that protect your nervous system and clarify who you are. She explains the difference between boundaries and standards and shares three steps to build a lived identity: decide who you are, choose consistent behaviors, and hold the standard calmly when tested. The episode includes practical examples for family, friendships, work, body, money, and home, and invites you to pick one standard on November 11th to embody—softly, steadily, and without explanation—so your life begins to feel like peace, not performance.