This conversation dives into the nitty-gritty of sexual wellness, hormone health, and the intimate connections that so many of us struggle to talk about—even with our partners. Dr. Diane Mueller joins me to unpack how our menstrual cycles influence libido, why stress and cortisol wreak havoc on desire, and the profound difference between arousal and desire (spoiler: most women experience arousal before desire, not the other way around).
We're breaking down the myths Hollywood and pop culture have sold us about sex, exploring how communication can transform intimacy, and getting real about the physical and hormonal changes that happen during perimenopause and menopause. This isn't just about sex—it's about reclaiming pleasure, reducing shame, and understanding that your body isn't broken, it's just talking to you in a different language.
In this episode we explore:
How libido naturally shifts throughout the menstrual cycle and what that means for desire
The critical difference between arousal and desire—and why women typically need arousal first
Why stress and cortisol are massive disruptors to sexual wellness and hormone balance
The unrealistic expectations created by movies and porn—and why penetrative sex alone doesn't work for most women
How to have conversations with your partner about changing needs without shame or blame
The impact of perimenopause and menopause on vaginal health, circulation, and pelvic floor tension
About Dr. Diane Mueller
Dr. Diane Mueller, ND, DAOM, is a seasoned sexual wellness authority, blending a strong educational foundation with a rich clinical and teaching experience. With a dual doctorate in Naturopathic Medicine and Acupuncture and Oriental Medicine, Diane has illuminated the discourse on sexual health through her practice, My Libido Doc. Her personal journey through sexual health challenges has equipped her with a unique empathetic lens, enriching her holistic approach to patient care. Diane extends her expertise through 'The Libido Lounge' podcast, her online training institute, and by training medical professionals worldwide in functional medicine. Her proactive community engagements, including co-hosting sexual health events and participating in numerous summits, reflect her commitment to fostering a well-informed sexual wellness dialogue. At the heart of her practice lies the belief that a healthy libido is a cornerstone to holistic wellness, driving a practice that has orchestrated transformative health journeys for her clients.
Resources:
Join the Hot and Modern Monogamy Club for ongoing support and live calls
The Libido Lounge Podcast
The Queen's Code by Alison Armstrong (mentioned in episode)
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Dr. Diane Mueller’s podcast, Libido Lounge
Her website: MyLibidoDoc.com
Youtube: Youtube.com/@mylibidodoc
My free guide: Maybe It’s Not You — The Truth About PMS & How to Take Back Control of Your Cycle
Learn more about the Hormone R.E.S.T. Method
Join my Hormone Unfiltered Newsletter
About Kate
Kate Nguy is the founder of Shee Revival and a Certified Hormone Health Practitioner and Cycle-Syncing Strategist who helps busy women in their 30s and 40s balance their hormones and reclaim their energy. Specializing in the hormonal ups and downs of midlife—from PMS and perimenopause to burnout and cortisol overload—Kate guides women to feel at home in their bodies and live in sync with their natural cycles.. Through cycle syncing, hormone hacks, and nervous system regulation, Kate empowers women to rebalance their hormones, reconnect to their bodies, and revive the vibrant, grounded version of themselves underneath the overwhelm.
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