In this episode, I have (once again ;) the great pleasure of speaking with couple therapist and psychiatrist Dr. Kathryn Ford about her book “The Aperture Effect: A Radically Simple Approach to Finding Joy and Connection in Your Relationship” and how aperture awareness can improve and strengthen our personal relationship on many levels. Aperture awareness is a distillation and combination of psychology, mindfulness, and neuroscience and can help us to become more aware of and attuned to inherent tendencies in our thoughts and behaviors, to move from a conversation of who’s right to a balanced dialogue and to effectively deal with different personal issues and problems regarding love and romance.   We touch upon openness, active listening, emotional overload, and vulnerability, how and why it is often hard (especially for men) to open up to their loved ones and what we can all do about it. Moreover, Kathryn explains how mindfulness and empathy can improve communication, how to be less self-defensive and learn to focus not only on words and content but to uncover and appreciate the interplay between content and underlying feelings and emotions.