A Conversation About Autism, Motherhood, and Radical Acceptance
Motherness by Julie M. Green isn’t about tragedy or superpowers — just the messy, hilarious, complicated truth of being an autistic mom.
Join me, Kate Lynch, on Atypical Kids, Mindful Parents, as I talk with Julie M. Green, author of Motherness: A Memoir of Generational Autism, Parenthood, and Radical Acceptance.
This conversation explores autistic motherhood, late-diagnosed autism, intergenerational neurodivergence, and the emotional labor of parenting kids who don’t fit the mold. Julie shares what it was like to discover her own autism a decade after her son’s diagnosis and reflects on masking, shame, anger, and the humor that keeps her afloat.
We also dive into:
-the loneliness of parenting “different” kids
-why aggressive or dysregulated behaviors are so misunderstood
-the pressure mothers carry in ableist systems
-how self-compassion and honesty make room for joy
If you’re parenting a neurodivergent child, wondering if you may be autistic, or searching for stories that make you feel less alone, Motherness is one of those rare memoirs that feels both tender and sharp — vulnerable, funny, and deeply human.
“It can be hard for people to feel empathetic when a child is lashing out. But it’s all variations of the same thing: dysregulation.”
If you’re parenting a neurodivergent child, wondering if you may be autistic, or searching for stories that make you feel less alone, Motherness is one of those rare memoirs that feels both tender and sharp — vulnerable, funny, and deeply human.
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Timestamps
00:00 Introduction and Welcome
00:50 Julie M. Green's Writing Style
01:42 Radical Acceptance and Self-Compassion
02:47 Julie M. Green's Autism Journey
05:41 Parenting Challenges and Community
07:26 Aggression and Behavioral Challenges
10:29 Reflections on Parenting and Personal Growth
13:02 Balancing Humor and Hardship
22:16 Spontaneous Joyful Moments
24:10 Final Thoughts and Farewell