In this episode, Chu Tang opens up about how friendship has shaped her journey from refugee camps to thriving as a creative artist and entrepreneur. Along the way, she found that friendship — real, unconditional friendship — was the thread that held her life together.
Chu shares how her second book, Finding Real Friends, was born out of gratitude for the support she received while writing her first. She hopes it helps young adults rediscover the meaning of friendship in an age of social media, where connection can often feel superficial.
Throughout the episode, Chu and I explore how friendship shapes identity, provides healing where family might not, and teaches us forgiveness and empathy. Chu’s stories — from childhood friends to creative collaborators to new business allies — show how authentic relationships help us grow into the best versions of ourselves.
As Chu says, friendship is both simple and sacred: it’s about trust, love without judgment, and choosing people who help you see your potential.
What You’ll Learn in This Episode:
Why true friendship requires trust, action, and acceptance
How friendships can fill roles that even family can’t
Why some friendships are “seasonal” — and how to let go with grace
How to build genuine friendships in a social-media-driven world
Noteworthy quotes from Chu in this episode:
“I think if we come from that space [ what’s in it for me], it's very hard to find true friends because we will tend to attract people with agenda.”
“And then also we have to forgive our friend because it's like us forgiving ourselves.... No, we don't go to school to learn how to be a good friend….So sometimes friend[s], they make mistakes and then so do we.”
“A true friend is someone that I could totally depend on…without them prejudging…someone who allows me to be who I am…no judgment…love who I am.”
Resources & Links Mentioned in This Episode:
Website: www.allhealth.info
Book: Finding Real Friends: Stay by My Side (available on Amazon)
Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/chu.tang.7
Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/chu_muy_tang/#
LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/health-wellness-consultant/
Connect with Anne Brinkman
Website: www.betteryour.life
LinkedIn: @coachannebrinkman
Free confidence recordings: www.betteryour.life/audio
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In this episode, Chu Tang opens up about how friendship has shaped her journey from refugee camps to thriving as a creative artist and entrepreneur. Along the way, she found that friendship — real, unconditional friendship — was the thread that held her life together.
Chu shares how her second book, Finding Real Friends, was born out of gratitude for the support she received while writing her first. She hopes it helps young adults rediscover the meaning of friendship in an age of social media, where connection can often feel superficial.
Throughout the episode, Chu and I explore how friendship shapes identity, provides healing where family might not, and teaches us forgiveness and empathy. Chu’s stories — from childhood friends to creative collaborators to new business allies — show how authentic relationships help us grow into the best versions of ourselves.
As Chu says, friendship is both simple and sacred: it’s about trust, love without judgment, and choosing people who help you see your potential.
What You’ll Learn in This Episode:
Why true friendship requires trust, action, and acceptance
How friendships can fill roles that even family can’t
Why some friendships are “seasonal” — and how to let go with grace
How to build genuine friendships in a social-media-driven world
Noteworthy quotes from Chu in this episode:
“I think if we come from that space [ what’s in it for me], it's very hard to find true friends because we will tend to attract people with agenda.”
“And then also we have to forgive our friend because it's like us forgiving ourselves.... No, we don't go to school to learn how to be a good friend….So sometimes friend[s], they make mistakes and then so do we.”
“A true friend is someone that I could totally depend on…without them prejudging…someone who allows me to be who I am…no judgment…love who I am.”
Resources & Links Mentioned in This Episode:
Website: www.allhealth.info
Book: Finding Real Friends: Stay by My Side (available on Amazon)
Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/chu.tang.7
Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/chu_muy_tang/#
LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/health-wellness-consultant/
Connect with Anne Brinkman
Website: www.betteryour.life
LinkedIn: @coachannebrinkman
Free confidence recordings: www.betteryour.life/audio
Newsletter: get notified of new podcast episodes or blog posts: https://better-your-life-coaching.ck.page/
Free discovery session: get support on your own personal growth journey: http://www.betteryour.life/schedule
Do you find yourself with so many interests that you’re not sure what to do with all of them? Or are you feeling like you don't fit into this world of single focus, especially when it comes to your work life?
In this episode of Books to Better Your Life, host Anne Brinkman explores Barbara Sher's Refuse to Choose, which addresses the challenges faced by what she called “scanners,” people with diverse interests who struggle to focus on a single path.
Brinkman highlights her key takeaways, including the idea of a Scanner Daybook to capture ideas, the importance of “career tryouts,” and strategies for integrating multiple passions into your working life. She also discusses Sher’s types of scanners and their unique traits, encouraging listeners to embrace their multifaceted nature and find ways to incorporate their interests into fulfilling careers and lives.
In this episode, you’ll learn about:
-Individuals with multiple interests – “scanners” – who struggle to commit to a single focus.
-The 11 different types of scanners, each with unique traits.
-Strategies for integrating your many passions, like having multiple specialties, maintaining hobbies, or creating a unique career combining various interests.
-“Career tryouts,” or experimenting with different careers to see if they match your expectations before fully committing.
-The “scanner daybook,” a tool for capturing and organizing your ideas and interests.
Noteworthy quotes
“Sometimes scanners are described as multi-passionates, or multipotentialites, or a renaissance man or woman, or sometimes, when they can harness it, jack-of-all-trades. Some of Sher’s descriptions are: ‘I work at low-paying jobs because there's nothing I'm willing to commit to,’ ‘I keep changing my mind about what I want to do and end up doing nothing,’ and ‘I'll never be an expert in anything.’”
“Sher considers people like Leonardo da Vinci, Aristotle, Goethe, and Ben Franklin as scanners. They had no qualms about exploring many different areas. And no one tried to stop them either. it was normal.”
“Aren't we interesting? We have all of these interests. And yet we also put all these obstacles in the way.”
“If this idea of a scanner resonates with you, then possibly just accepting your identity as one is a huge relief for you.”
Resources and links mentioned in this episode:
-Buy Refuse to Choose on Amazon (https://amzn.to/3MZxT1H) or Bookshop ( https://bookshop.org/a/106951/9781594866265) *
-Watch Barbara Sher's TEDx talk, “Isolation is the Dream Killer” https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=H2rG4Dg6xyI&ab_channel=TEDxTalks
-Visit Sher’s official website https://barbarasher.com/index.htm
-Explore Sher’s concept of Success Teams https://shersuccessteams.com/
-Join Sher’s Facebook community https://www.facebook.com/groups/45588180550/
Connect with Anne Brinkman
Website: www.betteryour.life
LinkedIn: @coachannebrinkman
Free confidence recordings: www.betteryour.life/audio
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As a Bookshop affiliate, I receive a commission and every book you buy on Bookshop.org also supports local, independent bookstores.
Books to Better Your Life
In this episode, Chu Tang opens up about how friendship has shaped her journey from refugee camps to thriving as a creative artist and entrepreneur. Along the way, she found that friendship — real, unconditional friendship — was the thread that held her life together.
Chu shares how her second book, Finding Real Friends, was born out of gratitude for the support she received while writing her first. She hopes it helps young adults rediscover the meaning of friendship in an age of social media, where connection can often feel superficial.
Throughout the episode, Chu and I explore how friendship shapes identity, provides healing where family might not, and teaches us forgiveness and empathy. Chu’s stories — from childhood friends to creative collaborators to new business allies — show how authentic relationships help us grow into the best versions of ourselves.
As Chu says, friendship is both simple and sacred: it’s about trust, love without judgment, and choosing people who help you see your potential.
What You’ll Learn in This Episode:
Why true friendship requires trust, action, and acceptance
How friendships can fill roles that even family can’t
Why some friendships are “seasonal” — and how to let go with grace
How to build genuine friendships in a social-media-driven world
Noteworthy quotes from Chu in this episode:
“I think if we come from that space [ what’s in it for me], it's very hard to find true friends because we will tend to attract people with agenda.”
“And then also we have to forgive our friend because it's like us forgiving ourselves.... No, we don't go to school to learn how to be a good friend….So sometimes friend[s], they make mistakes and then so do we.”
“A true friend is someone that I could totally depend on…without them prejudging…someone who allows me to be who I am…no judgment…love who I am.”
Resources & Links Mentioned in This Episode:
Website: www.allhealth.info
Book: Finding Real Friends: Stay by My Side (available on Amazon)
Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/chu.tang.7
Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/chu_muy_tang/#
LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/health-wellness-consultant/
Connect with Anne Brinkman
Website: www.betteryour.life
LinkedIn: @coachannebrinkman
Free confidence recordings: www.betteryour.life/audio
Newsletter: get notified of new podcast episodes or blog posts: https://better-your-life-coaching.ck.page/
Free discovery session: get support on your own personal growth journey: http://www.betteryour.life/schedule