How to speak your truth when you've been programmed into silence

🔥 We've all been programmed into silence in some way. Maybe you learned early that speaking up meant conflict, and conflict felt dangerous. But what kept you safe as a child is now keeping you stuck as an adult.

In this deeply personal episode, Bonnie shares her current living situation with her 87-year-old nan and how it's teaching her to navigate the challenging waters between being a reformed people pleaser and speaking her truth when it matters.

What You'll Learn:

• Why your nervous system reacts when you're about to speak your truth (and what to do about it) 
• The difference between fear-based thoughts and intuitive knowing 
• How to create safety before speaking up using nervous system regulation techniques 
• The 4-step process: Dispel energy, Ground yourself, Activate your throat chakra, Connect to your womb wisdom 
• How to handle trolls and negative feedback without losing your voice 
• Why co-regulation with safe people is essential for brave communication 
• The body signs that indicate you're about to stretch your comfort zone

Bonnie's Vulnerable Shares:

• Living in a small house with her nan, two young children, husband, and a Labrador after a devastating flood 
• Navigating difficult conversations about boundaries and space 
• Her experience going viral (4 million views) and dealing with trolls 

Key Frameworks:

• The Fear vs Intuition Test: Fear contracts and speaks dramatically; intuition expands and speaks quietly
• The 90-9-1 Rule: 90% will love your content, 9% might disagree respectfully, 1% will be unpleasant
• The Throat Chakra Activation Toolkit: Practical techniques for unblocking your voice center
• Your Troll Toolkit: 5 strategies for handling negative feedback without shutting down

Key Takeaway:

Your voice isn't just your competitive advantage - it's your pathway to freedom. The goal isn't to eliminate fear, but to feel it, create safety, and speak anyway.

🧠 New episodes drop every Tuesday

Host: Bonnie Wicks - Brand & Embodiment Coach

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Leave a review and share with someone who needs permission to use their voice. Tag @thebonniewicks and let her know which part of finding safety to use your voice feels most challenging for you.

Your voice matters. The world is waiting for what only you can say.