In this grounded and honest conversation, Rachel sits down with Natalie Olson, mama of three and coach for mothers, to explore what it really looks like to love your kids while not always loving motherhood.

Natalie shares her turning point, the inner work that followed, and how parts work, somatic tools, and compassionate self-leadership can transform daily triggers into moments of clarity and connection.

Together, we discuss the myth of the “calm mum,” why repair is a generational shift, and how to cultivate your capacity (not perfection) so you can hold boundaries with love, rage, and compassion in the same breath.

• The moment of truth: “I’m not okay”—naming it, seeking support, and why that alone can lighten the load.
  

• Nervous system basics for mums: what regulation feels like in your body and why capacity matters more than being “calm.”
  

• Rupture and Repair: How Owning Our Missteps and Circling Back Authentically Builds Trust and Resilience.
  

• Beliefs & stories: “I’m a bad mum,” “I’m not enough”—how hidden narratives drive reactions (and how to meet them with compassion).
  

• Somatic micro-practices: noticing sensations, giving yourself permission to feel, and creating space before you respond.
  

• Co-regulation in real life: why your grounded presence is a cue of safety for your child, even during big feelings at the park.
  

• Practical support: what to do when you can’t access coaching yet, and how friends/partners can genuinely “hold space” without fixing.
  

• Pause and notice your body: jaw, hands, breath—what’s present?
  

• Offer yourself four permissions: It’s safe to feel. It’s okay to feel. I’m allowed to feel. I have permission to feel.
  

• If a rupture happens, repair with yourself first (self-compassion) and then repair with your child when you’re both regulated.
  

• Instagram / Facebook: search @olson.natalie
  

• Authentic Motherhood Circle (Facebook Group): Natalie’s free community, including her 5-day Nervous System Reset https://www.facebook.com/share/g/1J93ee3a56/
  

• Podcast: You Make Sense (parts work & nervous system education)
  

• Concepts: Parts work, somatic awareness, rupture & repair, co-regulation, capacity building
  

• Mindful parenting & yoga for families: www.shineom.com.au
  

• Natural skincare & essential oils: www.shineomnatural.com.au
  

• Instagram: @shineomau | @shineomnatural
  

• Podcast home: www.shineom.com.au/podcast
  

Lifeline – 13 11 14 | PANDA – 1300 726 306 | Gidget Foundation – 1300 851 758 | Perinatal Wellbeing Centre – (02) 6288 1936 | Beyond Blue – 1300 22 4636 | Parentline – parentline.com.au

Listen, follow, and share with a friend who needs the reminder: you’re not doing it wrong—you might just be dysregulated. Capacity grows with practice.