Most people say they want “deep, meaningful relationships” – but then live on a diet of small talk, shallow friendships, and surface-level dating. In this video, I break down the real difference between deep connections and superficial ones, why you actually need both, and how to stop accidentally keeping everything at arm’s length out of habit and fear.
We’ll explore what shallow connections really are (small talk, transactional chats, copy-paste socialising) and when they’re actually useful… and then contrast that with what makes a connection genuinely deep: vulnerability, spontaneity, uniqueness, emotional intensity, and reciprocity. I’ll talk about the real costs and benefits of both styles – including grief, jealousy, and reduced “social numbers” on the deep side, and safety, ease, and flakiness on the shallow side.
Then I walk you through a practical framework for creating deep connections using my 3X Model – Curiosity, Honesty, and Respect. You’ll see how to share the thing you’re ashamed of, how to “show the meal being prepared” instead of the polished script, how to stop chasing quantity, and how to build a small circle of people who actually know you.
If you’re tired of feeling lonely in a crowd, bored by small talk, or confused about why your relationships never feel truly close, this one will give you a clear roadmap for shifting from superficial to meaningful – without trying to go deep with everyone or becoming a weird oversharer.
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Most people say they want “deep, meaningful relationships” – but then live on a diet of small talk, shallow friendships, and surface-level dating. In this video, I break down the real difference between deep connections and superficial ones, why you actually need both, and how to stop accidentally keeping everything at arm’s length out of habit and fear.
We’ll explore what shallow connections really are (small talk, transactional chats, copy-paste socialising) and when they’re actually useful… and then contrast that with what makes a connection genuinely deep: vulnerability, spontaneity, uniqueness, emotional intensity, and reciprocity. I’ll talk about the real costs and benefits of both styles – including grief, jealousy, and reduced “social numbers” on the deep side, and safety, ease, and flakiness on the shallow side.
Then I walk you through a practical framework for creating deep connections using my 3X Model – Curiosity, Honesty, and Respect. You’ll see how to share the thing you’re ashamed of, how to “show the meal being prepared” instead of the polished script, how to stop chasing quantity, and how to build a small circle of people who actually know you.
If you’re tired of feeling lonely in a crowd, bored by small talk, or confused about why your relationships never feel truly close, this one will give you a clear roadmap for shifting from superficial to meaningful – without trying to go deep with everyone or becoming a weird oversharer.
This episode discusses the challenges of self-love and acceptance, emphasizing the importance of treating oneself kindly.
We'll explore the common struggle everyone has with stress, pressure, and societal expectations, which often lead to self-loathing and coping mechanisms like overworking, substance abuse, and people-pleasing.
True self-love involves reducing stress, being kind to oneself, and recognizing your achievements, searching for a balanced approach, free from the extremes of high pressure or complete apathy, looking for self-compassion and realistic expectations.
Practical solutions include reframing thoughts, focusing on controllable aspects, and fostering genuine connections.
Brojo: Confidence for Men with Nice Guy Syndrome
Most people say they want “deep, meaningful relationships” – but then live on a diet of small talk, shallow friendships, and surface-level dating. In this video, I break down the real difference between deep connections and superficial ones, why you actually need both, and how to stop accidentally keeping everything at arm’s length out of habit and fear.
We’ll explore what shallow connections really are (small talk, transactional chats, copy-paste socialising) and when they’re actually useful… and then contrast that with what makes a connection genuinely deep: vulnerability, spontaneity, uniqueness, emotional intensity, and reciprocity. I’ll talk about the real costs and benefits of both styles – including grief, jealousy, and reduced “social numbers” on the deep side, and safety, ease, and flakiness on the shallow side.
Then I walk you through a practical framework for creating deep connections using my 3X Model – Curiosity, Honesty, and Respect. You’ll see how to share the thing you’re ashamed of, how to “show the meal being prepared” instead of the polished script, how to stop chasing quantity, and how to build a small circle of people who actually know you.
If you’re tired of feeling lonely in a crowd, bored by small talk, or confused about why your relationships never feel truly close, this one will give you a clear roadmap for shifting from superficial to meaningful – without trying to go deep with everyone or becoming a weird oversharer.
