Most people say they want “deep, meaningful relationships” – but then live on a diet of small talk, shallow friendships, and surface-level dating. In this video, I break down the real difference between deep connections and superficial ones, why you actually need both, and how to stop accidentally keeping everything at arm’s length out of habit and fear.
We’ll explore what shallow connections really are (small talk, transactional chats, copy-paste socialising) and when they’re actually useful… and then contrast that with what makes a connection genuinely deep: vulnerability, spontaneity, uniqueness, emotional intensity, and reciprocity. I’ll talk about the real costs and benefits of both styles – including grief, jealousy, and reduced “social numbers” on the deep side, and safety, ease, and flakiness on the shallow side.
Then I walk you through a practical framework for creating deep connections using my 3X Model – Curiosity, Honesty, and Respect. You’ll see how to share the thing you’re ashamed of, how to “show the meal being prepared” instead of the polished script, how to stop chasing quantity, and how to build a small circle of people who actually know you.
If you’re tired of feeling lonely in a crowd, bored by small talk, or confused about why your relationships never feel truly close, this one will give you a clear roadmap for shifting from superficial to meaningful – without trying to go deep with everyone or becoming a weird oversharer.
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Most people say they want “deep, meaningful relationships” – but then live on a diet of small talk, shallow friendships, and surface-level dating. In this video, I break down the real difference between deep connections and superficial ones, why you actually need both, and how to stop accidentally keeping everything at arm’s length out of habit and fear.
We’ll explore what shallow connections really are (small talk, transactional chats, copy-paste socialising) and when they’re actually useful… and then contrast that with what makes a connection genuinely deep: vulnerability, spontaneity, uniqueness, emotional intensity, and reciprocity. I’ll talk about the real costs and benefits of both styles – including grief, jealousy, and reduced “social numbers” on the deep side, and safety, ease, and flakiness on the shallow side.
Then I walk you through a practical framework for creating deep connections using my 3X Model – Curiosity, Honesty, and Respect. You’ll see how to share the thing you’re ashamed of, how to “show the meal being prepared” instead of the polished script, how to stop chasing quantity, and how to build a small circle of people who actually know you.
If you’re tired of feeling lonely in a crowd, bored by small talk, or confused about why your relationships never feel truly close, this one will give you a clear roadmap for shifting from superficial to meaningful – without trying to go deep with everyone or becoming a weird oversharer.
[#258] How to Stop Feeling Envious of Confident Men (And Become One)
Brojo: Confidence for Men with Nice Guy Syndrome
55 minutes 34 seconds
10 months ago
[#258] How to Stop Feeling Envious of Confident Men (And Become One)
Ever catch yourself feeling jealous of confident, successful men? You see them taking risks, speaking their minds, and getting what they want—while you feel stuck, hesitant, and full of self-doubt. That feeling of envy isn’t just frustration; it’s a clue. It’s showing you exactly where you’re holding yourself back.
In this video, we’ll break down:
✅ What envy really means (and why it’s not as bad as you think)
✅ The biggest lie envy tells you—and how it keeps you stuck
✅ The difference between admiration, inspiration, and envy
✅ How to flip envy into motivation instead of self-pity
✅ 3 powerful questions to challenge your envy and take action
The truth is, the men you admire aren’t special. They’ve just taken steps you haven’t—yet. And today, you’re going to learn how to start taking those steps yourself.
💬 Comment below: What’s one thing you’ve envied in another man, and how are you going to take action on it? Let’s break free from the envy trap together. 👇🔥
Brojo: Confidence for Men with Nice Guy Syndrome
Most people say they want “deep, meaningful relationships” – but then live on a diet of small talk, shallow friendships, and surface-level dating. In this video, I break down the real difference between deep connections and superficial ones, why you actually need both, and how to stop accidentally keeping everything at arm’s length out of habit and fear.
We’ll explore what shallow connections really are (small talk, transactional chats, copy-paste socialising) and when they’re actually useful… and then contrast that with what makes a connection genuinely deep: vulnerability, spontaneity, uniqueness, emotional intensity, and reciprocity. I’ll talk about the real costs and benefits of both styles – including grief, jealousy, and reduced “social numbers” on the deep side, and safety, ease, and flakiness on the shallow side.
Then I walk you through a practical framework for creating deep connections using my 3X Model – Curiosity, Honesty, and Respect. You’ll see how to share the thing you’re ashamed of, how to “show the meal being prepared” instead of the polished script, how to stop chasing quantity, and how to build a small circle of people who actually know you.
If you’re tired of feeling lonely in a crowd, bored by small talk, or confused about why your relationships never feel truly close, this one will give you a clear roadmap for shifting from superficial to meaningful – without trying to go deep with everyone or becoming a weird oversharer.
