In this episode Joanna chats about how love is defined in our early years by our parents and how when things are defined incorrectly we begin to associate the wrong things with them. Love is not pain, it is not abuse, suffering or trauma. On the contrary, love builds up, it is kind, compassionate and encouraging. She urges her listeners to have a firm definition of love so that they can easily spot and weed out relationships that may be reflecting their childhood trauma and not the healthy relationship that they are striving for.