Many of us carry sexual shame that began long before adulthood. The tone of our childhood homes, the way our parents handled emotion and mistakes, and the silence or anxiety surrounding the body all shaped how acceptable our desires—and our imperfections—felt to us. Those early messages often linger, coloring how we see ourselves and even how we imagine God sees us.
In this NEW episode, Dr. Finlayson-Fife joins Chris Rich of The Mixed-Faith Relationship Podcast to unpack where sexual shame comes from and how it shows up in adulthood. She explains how shame turns toxic when it convinces us that our flaws make us unworthy, and she offers a clearer, kinder way forward—one that helps us accept our embodied nature, integrate our sexuality, and relate to ourselves with more honesty and compassion.
Listen to the full episode to learn more about:
What sexual shame actually is—and how it develops
How childhood experiences shape comfort with desire
Why many of us confuse anxiety with “God’s judgment”
The difference between healthy inhibition and toxic shame
How both repression and indulgence keep us stuck
What genuine sexual integration looks like
How to foster healthier, shame-free conversations with our children
JOIN OUR MAILING LIST HERE and you'll get the link to join us for an online screening of "The Mormon Sex Therapist" on Thursday!
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Many of us carry sexual shame that began long before adulthood. The tone of our childhood homes, the way our parents handled emotion and mistakes, and the silence or anxiety surrounding the body all shaped how acceptable our desires—and our imperfections—felt to us. Those early messages often linger, coloring how we see ourselves and even how we imagine God sees us.
In this NEW episode, Dr. Finlayson-Fife joins Chris Rich of The Mixed-Faith Relationship Podcast to unpack where sexual shame comes from and how it shows up in adulthood. She explains how shame turns toxic when it convinces us that our flaws make us unworthy, and she offers a clearer, kinder way forward—one that helps us accept our embodied nature, integrate our sexuality, and relate to ourselves with more honesty and compassion.
Listen to the full episode to learn more about:
What sexual shame actually is—and how it develops
How childhood experiences shape comfort with desire
Why many of us confuse anxiety with “God’s judgment”
The difference between healthy inhibition and toxic shame
How both repression and indulgence keep us stuck
What genuine sexual integration looks like
How to foster healthier, shame-free conversations with our children
JOIN OUR MAILING LIST HERE and you'll get the link to join us for an online screening of "The Mormon Sex Therapist" on Thursday!
When Desire is Difficult (and what to do about it!) | Q&A with Dr. Jennifer
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When Desire is Difficult (and what to do about it!) | Q&A with Dr. Jennifer
For many women, sex feels like something to get through—another duty to manage, another expectation to meet. And yet, the more we pressure ourselves to “fix” our difficulty with desire, the more elusive it becomes.
This is because desire cannot be manufactured. It will never come from obligation, attempts to appease, or from sheer willpower. It only thrives in freedom—when we feel true to ourselves, at ease in our own skin, and at peace with how we are showing up in our lives.
In this NEW episode, Dr. Finlayson-Fife unpacks why women so often struggle with desire and and what they can do to cultivate a sexual relationship that feels alive and worth wanting.
Listen to the full episode to learn:
Why you can’t force yourself into desire
How duty-based meanings suffocate women’s eroticism
The crucial differences between men’s and women’s sexuality
Why freedom and authenticity are the lifeblood of passion
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Conversations with Dr. Jennifer
Many of us carry sexual shame that began long before adulthood. The tone of our childhood homes, the way our parents handled emotion and mistakes, and the silence or anxiety surrounding the body all shaped how acceptable our desires—and our imperfections—felt to us. Those early messages often linger, coloring how we see ourselves and even how we imagine God sees us.
In this NEW episode, Dr. Finlayson-Fife joins Chris Rich of The Mixed-Faith Relationship Podcast to unpack where sexual shame comes from and how it shows up in adulthood. She explains how shame turns toxic when it convinces us that our flaws make us unworthy, and she offers a clearer, kinder way forward—one that helps us accept our embodied nature, integrate our sexuality, and relate to ourselves with more honesty and compassion.
Listen to the full episode to learn more about:
What sexual shame actually is—and how it develops
How childhood experiences shape comfort with desire
Why many of us confuse anxiety with “God’s judgment”
The difference between healthy inhibition and toxic shame
How both repression and indulgence keep us stuck
What genuine sexual integration looks like
How to foster healthier, shame-free conversations with our children
JOIN OUR MAILING LIST HERE and you'll get the link to join us for an online screening of "The Mormon Sex Therapist" on Thursday!
