Self-Care vs. Selfishness: Help Drawing the Line

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DANG! The Todd Bridges Podcast

Todd Bridges and Bettijo Bridges

53 episodes

1 week ago

Coal for Christmas? A Darth Vader haircut? And Santa’s true identity? This Christmas Eve, Todd and Bettijo debate holiday chaos, family traditions, and why believing in Santa might just save Christmas—whether you’re naughty, nice, or getting charcoal.SUMMARYIt’s the DANG! Christmas episode, and Todd and Bettijo kick things off exactly how you’d expect: roasting each other’s hair, debating whether “DANG!” works as a holiday greeting, and diving headfirst into what really makes the holiday season the holiday season. From when Christmas decorations should go up to why Todd thinks kids might deserve coal, nothing is off-limits.The conversation winds through favorite (and least favorite) holidays, faith, and the meaning behind Christmas and Easter. Todd proudly claims his Grinch status while still loving family time, and Bettijo shares how traditions—like intentional gift-giving and Santa letters—keep the magic alive. Along the way, they swap childhood memories, blended-family realities, and hilarious debates about Santa’s race, belief, and bargaining power.Things take a nostalgic (and slightly unhinged) turn with stories of Nerf gun battles, BB gun mishaps, and holiday chaos past—before circling back to what matters most: togetherness. Whether it’s kids believing just a little longer, families navigating whose turn it is, or simply showing up, Todd and Bettijo remind us that Christmas isn’t about what’s under the tree—it’s about who’s around it.They wrap things up with a festive ToddFlix recommendation (Red One), more coal jokes, and a heartfelt reminder to enjoy your family while you have them. Funny, honest, and perfectly imperfect, this episode is a Christmas Eve listen made for eggnog, laughter, and embracing the beautiful mess of the holidays.HIGHLIGHTSDarth Vader vs. Eraser Hair: Todd and Bettijo roast each other’s morning hair—and somehow Star Wars and office supplies both lose. (00:38) When Christmas Actually Starts: Bettijo declares the Macy’s Parade the official permission slip for Christmas music. Todd strongly disagrees. (01:55)Certified Grinch Energy: Todd’s favorite holiday is…not Christmas. (04:10)Coal > Presents?: Todd explains why naughty kids should really get coal—and why he’s totally serious. Maybe. (05:59)The Gift Math Madness: Bettijo’s bucket system for “fair” Christmas gifting. (09:51)Santa Believers (Ages 18+): How Bettijo keeps her grown kids believing in Santa—for strategic reasons. (13:43)Santa, According to Todd: Why Santa was Black in his house—and still might be. (14:42)BB Guns & Bad Ideas: Holiday nostalgia takes a dangerous turn. (16:26)ToddFlix – Red One: The Rock, Krampus, and the slap heard ’round Christmas. (22:05)LISTEN TO LEARNWhy the Macy’s Thanksgiving Day Parade is the legal loophole for decorating early.How to turn Christmas shopping into a sneaky math lesson (that kids don’t hate).How to keep Christmas “fair” without losing your mind.Whether you're decorating your tree in November or waiting until the last second like a holiday rebel, this episode is the gift that keeps on giving. Stop being a Grinch—hit play and join the family!Follow on Instagram: Todd @toddbridges & Bettijo @pagingsupermom--------------------© 2025 Loop 101 MediaDANG! is produced by Loop 101 Media, Bettijo Bridges, Todd Bridges & Attalie AnneFor more information contact info@loop101media.com

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Self-Care vs. Selfishness: Help Drawing the Line - Ep. 48

DANG! The Todd Bridges Podcast

24 minutes

1 month ago

Self-Care vs. Selfishness: Help Drawing the Line - Ep. 48

Is the line “Nobody will care about you more than you care about yourself” actually true—or is it low-key toxic? Todd Bridges and Bettijo crack this one open in a real-life, couples-therapy-style convo about self-care vs. selfishness, how they set (and screw up) boundaries with their kids, and one tiny “mosquito” comment from Todd that sent Bettijo OVER. THE. EDGE.SUMMARYThis week, Todd and Bettijo Bridges tackle a heavy-hitting statement Bettijo recently heard: “Nobody will care about you more than you care about yourself.” Bettijo shares that she wasn’t raised to believe this—her upbringing centered on service, sacrifice, and avoiding the dreaded label of being selfish or self-centered. Todd, on the other hand, thinks it’s absolutely true and argues that you have to take care of yourself first—emotionally, mentally, and physically—before you can pour into anyone else.From there, the conversation dives into the tricky balance between prioritizing yourself and being perceived as selfish. Todd shares how he decides whether a request is a genuine need or just someone being lazy, emphasizing the importance of personal accountability. They also explore how this idea shifts when you’re parenting young kids versus adult children, and why setting boundaries in relationships is key to earning respect and appreciation.Todd wraps up the episode with his “Todd Flix” recommendation: the Netflix show Lucifer, which he’s currently re-watching with Bettijo, who’s never seen it.HIGHLIGHTS Todd and Bettijo unpack the controversial idea she heard on Emme Grede’s Aspire podcast: “Nobody will care about you more than you care about yourself.” (1:34)Bettijo shares how her upbringing blurred the line between self-care and selfishness. (2:04)Todd explains why filling your own bucket is non-negotiable if you want anything left to give. (4:07)A mosquito-in-the-house moment hilariously reveals Todd’s approach to protecting his peace. (4:12)Todd defines the difference between being selfish and simply taking care of himself. (10:15)They break down how boundaries promote personal accountability. (14:50)Todd’s “Todd Flix” pick of the week: the Netflix series Lucifer. (19:05)Bettijo challenges Todd to go on Dancing with the Stars—and they debate their wildly different music tastes. (22:54)LISTEN TO LEARNSelf-care vs. selfishness: where’s the line?How to set boundaries when you’re a lifelong people-pleaser.Why your emotional and mental health have to come first.Todd’s take on parenting adult kids with firm boundaries.Don't wait for permission to put yourself first—you can't pour from an empty cup! Stop being a mosquito magnet and start setting boundaries right now by hitting Play!Follow on Instagram: Todd @toddbridges & Bettijo @pagingsupermom--------------------© 2025 Loop 101 MediaDANG! is produced by Loop 101 Media, Bettijo Bridges, Todd Bridges & Attalie AnneFor more information contact info@loop101media.com

DANG! The Todd Bridges Podcast