What if the secret to a healthy, lasting relationship isn’t finding “the right person”… but designing the relationship that’s actually right for you? We’re here with Ellecia Paine who experienced first-hand what it's like to be in a relationship that looks good on the outside but feels empty on the inside, – and how she used this experience to completely redefine what she was looking for in a partnership. We discuss how to break out of the inherited “shoulds” when searching for love, why it's not "too much" to ask for more when it comes to your relationship, and how to create a structure that’s built for who you are, whether you’ve found your person or not. TW: We talk about an abusive relationship at the start of the interview. Follow Ellecia @elleciapaine and check out her work at: https://www.elleciapaine.com/ Take the Dating Archetypes quiz now: https://howtobedateable.com/ HOW TO BE DATEABLE IS OUT! Order now: https://howtobedateable.com/ Follow us @dateablepodcast, @juliekrafchick and @nonplatonic. Check out our website for more content. Also listen to our other podcast Exit Interview available on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, or wherever you get your podcasts. WE WROTE A BOOK! HOW TO BE DATEABLE (Simon & Schuster, Jan 2025) is available now: https://howtobedateable.com/ Our Sponsors: * Bioma Health: Get an extra 15% off with the code Dateable at https://gobioma.com/DATEABLE * Happy Mammoth: Try Prebiotic Collagen Protein and Hormone Harmony risk-free AND get 15% off your order at https://happymammoth.com with the code DATEABLE * Quince: Get free shipping on your order and 365-day returns at https://quince.com/dateable * Washington Red Raspberries: Find more details on where to find American frozen red raspberries, plus recipe ideas and cooking tips at https://redrazz.org Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/dateable-your-insiders-look-into-modern-dating-and-relationships/donations Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands Privacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy