When does attention become intrusion. Tim and Tina trace how private obsession turns into public harm, why consent gets distorted online, and where institutions break down. Drawing on Baby Reindeer (Netflix), You season 4 (Netflix), and The Invisible Man 2020 (Peacock or rental), they unpack parasocial relationships, stalking tactics, coercive control, and the red flags most people overlook.
What you will hear:
• Baby Reindeer analysis. Fixation, doxxing, platform amplification, and delayed police and workplace responses
• You season 4 explained. Stalker rationalizations, charming narration that launders red flags, and consequence vs glamour
• The Invisible Man 2020. Tech-mediated abuse, gaslighting, isolation, and why “invisible” harm is hard to prove
• The Consent Map. Active, specific, reversible consent in DMs and real life
• Institutional failure. Why incident counting beats pattern recognition, and what better threat assessment looks like
• The Pocket Toolkit. Stalking warning signs, boundary scripts, documentation and screenshot habits, privacy settings, report paths
Searchable topics covered:
parasocial relationships explained, Baby Reindeer stalking breakdown, You season 4 analysis, The Invisible Man 2020 coercive control, what is consent online, digital harassment safety, threat assessment basics, how to set boundaries, how to document abuse, institutional failure in response to stalking
Content note: Discussion of stalking, harassment, and abuse. Please listen with care. Spoilers for all three works.