In this episode, I’m joined by world-renowned trauma expert Dr. Diane Poole Heller for a profound conversation on attachment wounds, healing relational trauma, and the path back to secure connection. Diane shares insights from decades of work in Somatic Experiencing and her DARe™ model, helping us understand why so many of us feel unsafe in intimacy—and what we can do about it.
We explore the origins of avoidant, ambivalent, and disorganized attachment patterns, how early ruptures shape adult relationships, and why nervous system regulation is key to healing. Diane brings a grounded, compassionate perspective to the messy, tender process of becoming securely attached, whether you're in a relationship or not.
This conversation is full of lightbulb moments, practical takeaways, and gentle reminders that secure connection is not just possible—it’s our birthright.
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Top Episode Quotes:
“Connection is a biological imperative—we’re wired to attach, even when it hurts.”
“You don’t have to wait for a perfect childhood to have a great adulthood.”
“Healing attachment wounds isn’t about fixing—you’re not broken. It’s about reconnecting.”
“Our patterns were brilliant survival strategies. But they’re not always the best relationship strategies.”
“Secure attachment can be earned, at any stage of life.”
attachment healing, trauma recovery, somatic experiencing, secure attachment, avoidant attachment, anxious attachment, nervous system healing, childhood trauma, relationship wounds, emotional safety, trauma-informed relationships, intimacy healing, healing attachment styles