This week, I did something that felt incredibly vulnerable. I voiced a desire—openly, bravely—and then had to sit in the discomfort of waiting. That space between expression and response cracked me wide open. In this solo episode, I take you inside that raw experience and reflect on how I’ve spent most of my life suppressing my desires because they never felt safe to have.
I explore how childhood messaging shaped my relationship with longing, why desire became tangled with shame, and how so many of us were taught that being “good” meant not needing anything. I share what it’s taken for me to slowly reclaim the right to want, to feel, to long for more without fear of rejection. We’ll talk about the difference between desire and control, the nervous system’s response to not being met, and how learning to sit in our longing—without shrinking or numbing—can be the most liberating act of self-love.
This is an intimate conversation about emotional maturity, the pain of unmet needs, and the sacredness of choosing to feel it all. If you’ve ever been told you’re “too much,” or found yourself performing perfection to avoid discomfort, I hope this episode makes you feel a little more seen, held, and empowered.
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Top Episode Quotes:
“Desire itself isn’t painful. What’s painful is the history that taught us it wasn’t safe to want.”
“Suppressing your needs doesn’t make you more lovable—it makes you disappear.”
“You can't receive what you don't let yourself long for.”
“When we shut down our desires, we shut down our aliveness.”
trauma healing, nervous system regulation, somatic healing, emotional resilience, inner child healing, longing, desire, healing trauma, childhood wounds, emotional suppression, embodiment, shame healing, self-acceptance, somatic coaching, Marina Yanay-Triner