In this episode of Deformed Theology, David and Jonathan dive deep into one of the most misunderstood and misrepresented topics in Christian living: biblical masculinity and what it truly means to be a godly husband. In a culture drowning in confusion about gender roles, leadership, and marriage, Christians often find themselves caught between toxic caricatures of masculinity and the reactive extremism of modern culture. But Scripture offers clarity—real clarity—on how husbands are called to lead their homes in a way that reflects Christ Himself.
Drawing from Ephesians 5, 1 Corinthians 11, 1 Peter 3, Genesis, and the example of Jesus throughout the Gospels, this episode explores what headship actually is: not dominance, ego, superiority, or tradition-for-tradition’s-sake, but sacrificial responsibility, humble leadership, and servant-hearted love. Christ doesn’t rule His church with cold authority—He lays down His life for her. And that’s the standard men are called to imitate.
David and Jonathan discuss the difference between cultural masculinity and Biblical masculinity, exposing the false stereotypes many men inherit from sitcoms, society, or even church subculture. They confront the common misunderstandings surrounding submission, headship, and the burden-bearing role men are designed for. They also share practical wisdom about loving your wife well, leading your household spiritually, taking initiative, cultivating emotional availability, and modeling Christlike humility.
If you’re a Christian husband, a soon-to-be husband, a young man preparing for marriage, or anyone who wants to understand God’s design for the family, this conversation will reshape the way you think about leadership, responsibility, spiritual authority, and what it means to reflect the heart of Jesus in your home.
Topics covered in this episode include:
• Why the world is starving for strong, godly men
• Ephesians 5:25 and how Christ’s love defines a husband’s role
• The meaning of headship: burden-bearing, not bossing
• The danger of false masculinity and cultural stereotypes
• How to lead without controlling or dominating
• Why husbands must be the first to act, repent, love, and initiate
• Understanding your wife’s needs—emotionally, spiritually, and practically
• Why spiritual leadership starts with Scripture and prayer
• How your treatment of your wife affects your prayer life (1 Peter 3:7)
• The difference between chores, responsibilities, and sacrificial leadership
• Teaching your children by example: building a biblical family culture
• Why emotional availability matters in Christian masculinity
• How to prioritize your home, fight selfish habits, and crucify the flesh
• The role of the Holy Spirit in shaping husbands into Christlike men
At the end of the day, being a godly husband is impossible without the Word of God and the work of the Holy Spirit. This episode will encourage, challenge, convict, and equip you to take your place in the home as the kind of man God designed you to be: a servant-leader who loves like Christ, sacrifices like Christ, and leads like Christ.
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