In this episode of Deformed Theology, we dive deep into one of the most misunderstood, misapplied, and culturally contested topics in the Christian world today: biblical marriage—specifically the role of wives, submission, respect, strength, and God’s design for the home. After spending last week addressing husbands, we invited our wives, Lacee and April, to join us for a real, unscripted conversation about what biblical womanhood and biblical marriage actually look like according to Scripture—not culture.

From Proverbs 31, Ephesians 5, Titus 2, and 1 Peter 3, we explore what the Bible really teaches about submission, honor, sacrifice, and partnership. This isn’t about legalism, oppression, or control. It’s about mutual Christ-centered love, sacrificial leadership, joyful submission, and the beautiful design God established from creation: two equal image-bearers with distinct, complementary roles working together for the glory of God.

Our wives share honestly about their journeys—struggles, growth, misconceptions, frustrations, blessings, and how God’s Word reshaped their understanding of marriage. We talk about cultural feminism, modern misunderstandings of submission, emotional and spiritual maturity, generational patterns, raising children, guarding your speech, honoring your spouse publicly and privately, and the difference between roles and chores.

We address how biblical marriage functions during conflict, what submission does and does not mean, how men and women uniquely reflect Christ and the Church, and how God uses marriage to shape our sanctification. We also get into practical examples: emotional availability, finances, household responsibilities, respect, speaking life, unity in parenting, spiritual authority, and what it means to “apply yourself to Scripture” instead of trying to make Scripture fit your preferences.

And yes — we even talk candidly (and tastefully) about sex within marriage, why Scripture speaks directly to it, and why intimacy within a covenant is a blessing, not something shameful or awkward. Proverbs 5, 1 Corinthians 7, and Song of Solomon all make an appearance.

If you’re a Christian couple wanting a biblical perspective, a single believer preparing for marriage, or someone deconstructing cultural ideas about marriage roles, this conversation offers clarity, humor, theology, and real-life testimony. Our goal is simple: to bring the conversation back to God’s design—not the world’s, not tradition’s, not Hollywood’s.

Whether you agree or disagree, this episode will challenge, encourage, and sharpen your understanding of Christian marriage, biblical wifehood, and God’s blueprint for the home.

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