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Keith Martin-Smith and David Arrell diagnose the core pathology of contemporary life: we're living in an attainment culture that measures worth through accumulation—more status, more recognition, more stuff—while starving the qualities that actually make life worth living. The result? Epidemic levels of anxiety, polarization, narcissism, and a quiet desperation that no amount of productivity hacks or self-optimization can touch.
The alternative isn't another framework to add to your collection. It's a fundamental reorientation toward attunement culture—a shift from quantity to quality, from getting to becoming, from conquest to meaning.
David lays out the architecture of this shift across three temporal dimensions:
HEALTH (The Past): Most of us are operating from developmental anchors—unconscious wounds and reactive patterns that keep us stuck at earlier stages of maturity. When you criticize, control, or comply automatically, you're not responding to what's in front of you; you're responding from an old script. The work is to turn toward these patterns with curiosity, reclaim the energy locked there, and stop letting the past hijack your present.
DEPTH (The Present): Your attention is under siege. Billions of dollars have been spent engineering super-normal stimuli to keep you distracted, metabolically aroused, and scrolling. But presence—the capacity to remain grounded when life gets turbulent—is the foundation of wisdom. Character and virtue aren't abstractions; they're your ability to tolerate weather without capsizing. The fruits of the spirit (love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness, self-control) emerge spontaneously when you create the conditions, like apples from a healthy tree.
GROWTH (The Future): Beyond your current capacities are your leading edges—the places where you're stretching into new territory. Growth means tolerating the unknown, throwing aspirational grappling hooks into territory you can't yet see clearly, and expanding your container of authenticity. It's not about becoming someone else; it's about becoming more fully who you already are.
Throughout the conversation, Keith and David return to a revolutionary foundation: dignity culture. Unlike respect (which must be earned), dignity simply is—every human being has equal claim to worth by virtue of being human. This creates common ground from which we can build toward higher ground. It dissolves the false choice between dominator hierarchies and victim narratives, between attainment Olympics and oppression Olympics.
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Ideas don't transform lives — lived practice does. You can understand everything David and Keith discussed intellectually and still show up tomorrow exactly as you did today: distracted, reactive, caught in the same patterns, serving the same attainment culture that's been grinding you down.
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Keith Martin-Smith and David Arrell diagnose the core pathology of contemporary life: we're living in an attainment culture that measures worth through accumulation—more status, more recognition, more stuff—while starving the qualities that actually make life worth living. The result? Epidemic levels of anxiety, polarization, narcissism, and a quiet desperation that no amount of productivity hacks or self-optimization can touch.
The alternative isn't another framework to add to your collection. It's a fundamental reorientation toward attunement culture—a shift from quantity to quality, from getting to becoming, from conquest to meaning.
David lays out the architecture of this shift across three temporal dimensions:
HEALTH (The Past): Most of us are operating from developmental anchors—unconscious wounds and reactive patterns that keep us stuck at earlier stages of maturity. When you criticize, control, or comply automatically, you're not responding to what's in front of you; you're responding from an old script. The work is to turn toward these patterns with curiosity, reclaim the energy locked there, and stop letting the past hijack your present.
DEPTH (The Present): Your attention is under siege. Billions of dollars have been spent engineering super-normal stimuli to keep you distracted, metabolically aroused, and scrolling. But presence—the capacity to remain grounded when life gets turbulent—is the foundation of wisdom. Character and virtue aren't abstractions; they're your ability to tolerate weather without capsizing. The fruits of the spirit (love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness, self-control) emerge spontaneously when you create the conditions, like apples from a healthy tree.
GROWTH (The Future): Beyond your current capacities are your leading edges—the places where you're stretching into new territory. Growth means tolerating the unknown, throwing aspirational grappling hooks into territory you can't yet see clearly, and expanding your container of authenticity. It's not about becoming someone else; it's about becoming more fully who you already are.
Throughout the conversation, Keith and David return to a revolutionary foundation: dignity culture. Unlike respect (which must be earned), dignity simply is—every human being has equal claim to worth by virtue of being human. This creates common ground from which we can build toward higher ground. It dissolves the false choice between dominator hierarchies and victim narratives, between attainment Olympics and oppression Olympics.
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Ideas don't transform lives — lived practice does. You can understand everything David and Keith discussed intellectually and still show up tomorrow exactly as you did today: distracted, reactive, caught in the same patterns, serving the same attainment culture that's been grinding you down.
Click here to learn more: https://integrallife.com/attunement
In this wide-ranging, courageous, and deeply developmental exploration, Keith Martin-Smith tackles one of the most polarizing topics in contemporary culture: Diversity, Equity, and Inclusion. Tracing the historical evolution of DEI from its civil rights roots to its present-day institutional complexity, Keith examines how good intentions have often been overtaken by ideological rigidity, performative rituals, and empirical blind spots.
He breaks down the seven “deadly sins” of DEI — including its flattening of privilege, intolerance of dissent, and the shift from equal opportunity to enforced outcomes — while offering constructive, integral alternatives that retain the spirit of justice without sacrificing complexity, truth, or liberal values.
Drawing on developmental theory, Keith shows how DEI emerged from postmodern sensibilities but now operates largely through early-rational "expert" systems that enforce conformity rather than foster inclusion. He offers a vision of what DEI could look like if grounded in empathy, complexity, and anti-fragility — not coercion.
Whether you're a staunch supporter of DEI, a skeptical observer, or somewhere in between, this is a conversation designed to challenge, deepen, and hopefully transform your understanding of one of today’s most important and misunderstood social projects.
Everyone Is Right
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Keith Martin-Smith and David Arrell diagnose the core pathology of contemporary life: we're living in an attainment culture that measures worth through accumulation—more status, more recognition, more stuff—while starving the qualities that actually make life worth living. The result? Epidemic levels of anxiety, polarization, narcissism, and a quiet desperation that no amount of productivity hacks or self-optimization can touch.
The alternative isn't another framework to add to your collection. It's a fundamental reorientation toward attunement culture—a shift from quantity to quality, from getting to becoming, from conquest to meaning.
David lays out the architecture of this shift across three temporal dimensions:
HEALTH (The Past): Most of us are operating from developmental anchors—unconscious wounds and reactive patterns that keep us stuck at earlier stages of maturity. When you criticize, control, or comply automatically, you're not responding to what's in front of you; you're responding from an old script. The work is to turn toward these patterns with curiosity, reclaim the energy locked there, and stop letting the past hijack your present.
DEPTH (The Present): Your attention is under siege. Billions of dollars have been spent engineering super-normal stimuli to keep you distracted, metabolically aroused, and scrolling. But presence—the capacity to remain grounded when life gets turbulent—is the foundation of wisdom. Character and virtue aren't abstractions; they're your ability to tolerate weather without capsizing. The fruits of the spirit (love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness, self-control) emerge spontaneously when you create the conditions, like apples from a healthy tree.
GROWTH (The Future): Beyond your current capacities are your leading edges—the places where you're stretching into new territory. Growth means tolerating the unknown, throwing aspirational grappling hooks into territory you can't yet see clearly, and expanding your container of authenticity. It's not about becoming someone else; it's about becoming more fully who you already are.
Throughout the conversation, Keith and David return to a revolutionary foundation: dignity culture. Unlike respect (which must be earned), dignity simply is—every human being has equal claim to worth by virtue of being human. This creates common ground from which we can build toward higher ground. It dissolves the false choice between dominator hierarchies and victim narratives, between attainment Olympics and oppression Olympics.
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Ideas don't transform lives — lived practice does. You can understand everything David and Keith discussed intellectually and still show up tomorrow exactly as you did today: distracted, reactive, caught in the same patterns, serving the same attainment culture that's been grinding you down.
Click here to learn more: https://integrallife.com/attunement
