Are avoidants actually avoidant… or are they reflecting something deeper back to you - especially if you have anxious attachment?
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In today's episode of the F*CK TRAUMA Podcast, I’m breaking down one of the most perspective-shifting teachings you will ever learn about relationships:
Why avoidants show up the way they do, and how the Law of Assumption can transform the dynamic completely.
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Not by chasing.Not by fixing.Not by abandoning yourself.
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Inside this episode, you’ll learn:
✨ Why anxious attachers are drawn to avoidants
✨ What the “abandonment mirror” actually is
✨ How your inner assumptions create avoidant patterns
✨ Why avoidant behaviour feels so familiar to your body
✨ How changing your identity changes how THEY show up
✨ How to shift the story of them and the story of you
✨ Embodiment practices to step into secure, chosen energy
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This is the deeper layer behind everything I teach:
You are not powerless in your relationships, and avoidants are not “fixed this way.”
They reflect your inner world and when you shift, they do too.
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If you haven’t listened to these episodes yet, start here:
They’ll give you the perfect foundation for today’s teaching:
🔹 You Can't Change Them Until You Change You (Self-concept & Law of Assumption)
🔹 Transform Your Relationships with the Law of Assumption
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Want to go deeper?
Free Masterclass: Becoming Secure You
Masterclass: Stop Attracting Avoidants
Masterclass: Stop Them Pulling Away
Signature Program: Anxious to Secure in Love
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