In this powerful episode of Finding New Waters, B. Reeves and Justin McClendon sit down with Thatcher Shively, a clinical interventionist, recovery coach, and Director of Admissions at Feinberg Consulting, a nationally recognized concierge case-management and intervention firm.Thatcher shares openly about being a high-achieving kid whose emotional world collapsed in college. What started as a slow unraveling turned into full-scale addiction, isolation, and a crisis that forced him to confront the truth he’d been running from: his identity was built entirely on performance, perfectionism, and trying to stay “one step ahead” of his own pain.After entering treatment, Thatcher discovered something he never expected — the freedom of letting go. Today, years into recovery, he helps families navigate crisis, rebuild trust, and chart a path toward stability, structure, and long-term healing.This episode is rich with insight about masculinity, pressure, burnout, shame, parenting, and what happens when the life you built finally caves in. It’s a conversation that will resonate deeply with anyone who has struggled with identity, expectations, or feeling like they’re never enough.Learn more about Feinberg Consulting: www.feinbergconsulting.com⸻Timestamps00:00 – Welcome and introduction to Thatcher Shively02:00 – Thatcher’s childhood as a high achiever04:00 – When perfectionism becomes a coping mechanism06:30 – The first cracks showing during college08:30 – Emotional collapse and the spiral into addiction11:30 – Losing control and living in survival mode15:00 – Hitting the breaking point and accepting help18:00 – What treatment revealed about identity and self-worth21:00 – Why high performers struggle to admit they’re struggling24:30 – The role of shame in addiction and burnout27:00 – Rebuilding structure, trust, and emotional safety30:00 – Helping families navigate crisis at Feinberg Consulting33:00 – Masculinity, pressure, and unrealistic expectations37:00 – How to support a loved one without enabling40:00 – The importance of community and ongoing recovery43:00 – Where to find Thatcher and Feinberg Consulting⸻Powerful Quote“I built my identity on performance. Recovery forced me to build it on truth.” – Thatcher Shively⸻Guest BioThatcher ShivelyDirector of Admissions, Feinberg ConsultingThatcher Shively is a clinical interventionist, recovery coach, and the Director of Admissions at Feinberg Consulting, a national case-management and intervention firm helping families navigate mental health, addiction, and complex behavioral crises. Drawing from his own lived experience and professional training, Thatcher specializes in guiding families through chaos toward clarity, structure, and long-term stability. His work focuses on restoring trust, creating safety, and helping individuals reconnect with a healthier sense of identity and purpose.Website: www.feinbergconsulting.comLinkedIn: www.linkedin.com/company/feinberg-consulting⸻Resources Mentioned• Feinberg Consulting – www.feinbergconsulting.com• Recovery Coaching and Case Management• Family Systems and Crisis Support• Emotional Regulation and Identity Work⸻Follow Finding New WatersInstagram: www.instagram.com/newwatersrecoveryFacebook: www.facebook.com/newwatersrecoveryLinkedIn: www.linkedin.com/company/new-waters-recoveryTikTok: www.tiktok.com/@newwatersrecovery_nc⸻Watch & ListenWebsite: www.findingnewwaters.comSpotify: open.spotify.com/show/4NOV2g85KExFWU5mTz5GjwApple Podcasts: podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/finding-new-waters/id1684075608YouTube: www.youtube.com/channel/UCjfAIXtiOgy1XFcwAduXgXwYouTube Music: music.youtube.com/playlist?list=PLuJOc6yLcjibGGAKgLYPCN47etJCY89mn#ThatcherShively #FeinbergConsulting #AddictionRecovery #HighAchieversAndBurnout #IdentityAndRecovery #FindingNewWaters #MentalHealthJourney #RecoveryCoaching #FamilyHealing