# 94 Why you keep quitting on yourself (and how to stop). Personal development is totally like dating.

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Flirt with your Future Self

Stormy Sage

158 episodes

2 days ago

My invitation to you: Do not abandon what you are creating. Flirt With Your Future Self is an audio love letter to who you’re becoming. Hosted by Stormy Sage, this podcast explores identity shifts, life pivots, creativity, and spirituality through intimate reflections, midnight letters, and gentle rituals. Here, personal growth is not about fixing yourself; it’s about learning how to stay with the life you are creating, and courting your future with devotion instead of force.

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# 94 Why you keep quitting on yourself (and how to stop). Personal development is totally like dating.

Flirt with your Future Self

12 minutes 42 seconds

2 months ago

# 94 Why you keep quitting on yourself (and how to stop). Personal development is totally like dating.

Lately, I’ve been realizing that my personal development journey feels exactly like my dating life.

I’m walking you through the four stages I’ve noticed: the meet-cute, the honeymoon phase, the commitment stage, and the long game, and how each one mirrors the way we approach self-improvement, aka becoming our flirty future self.

I share the excitement of meeting my “future self” for the first time, how intoxicating the honeymoon stage feels when I start new habits, and also the heartbreak of self-sabotage when I abandon her too soon. I know that loop so well, the cycle of starting over, building momentum, then giving up on myself. But I also share how I’ve learned to stay committed, spot my own red flags, and finally date my future self like she’s the one.

If you’ve ever wondered why it feels so hard to stay consistent with your self-growth, or why you keep restarting your journey, this conversation will help you see your personal development through a completely different lens. Think of it as a flirty diary entry on love, life design, and becoming the version of you that you can’t stop crushing on.

The breakdown:

00:00 Are you treating your personal development journey like your bad dating habits?

01:23 #1 The Meet-Cute: You visualize your future self for the first time

02:05 #2 The Honeymoon Phase: You start new habits, have the right mindset, and stop your bad habits. “I think this is possible.”

03:08 #3 The Commitment VS. Break it off: You keep going to become your next version, or you slide back into doubt, self-sabotage, and old ways

05:06 #4 The Long Game VS. Self-abandonment: You BECAME that person, your flirty future self, or you feel guilt/shame/check out

06:50 You start the cycle all over again if you stopped after the honeymoon phase

07:45 “This isn’t for me”

08:44 Start the cycle again, this time following through to the long game

10:10 What is it going to take for you to be committed to the future version of yourself?

10:45 Lock in with yourself. One decision at a time

11:25 Know your red flags so well

12:40 What stage of the game are you at?

Stay flirty, Stormy

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