In Part II of my conversation with Bev Mitelman, Certified Attachment Practitioner and founder of Securely Loved, we explore what happens when independence becomes a shield—and how to soften the walls that keep love just out of reach. Bev and I dive into how early emotional neglect can create avoidant patterns that echo through adulthood, how midlife brings both challenge and awakening, and why true connection begins with understanding yourself first. In this episode, we talk about: • How early emotional neglect shapes dismissive and fearful-avoidant attachment patterns • Why hyper-independence often masks unmet needs for safety and love • The midlife awakening that invites authenticity, courage, and self-discovery • The role of emotional regulation and body awareness in creating secure connection • How radical honesty transforms relationships and builds trust from the inside out If you recognize yourself in these patterns, visit securelyloved.com to take Bev’s free attachment quiz, and visit her on YouTube to find content and upcoming workshops and events.