Today I want to speak to you about something every believer encounters at some point in their walk with God — the tension between what we believe about God and who He is, and what we are actually experiencing in real life. Many of us, especially in our African context, have been shaped by extremes of the prosperity gospel or have come from cultures where expressing pain, confusion, or raw emotion feels uncomfortable or even taboo. Because of this, when life becomes difficult, when prayers seem unanswered, or when God feels silent or distant, we don’t always know how to process it. We can feel alone, confused, disappointed, or even frustrated — unsure of how to express what’s really happening inside us and how to process who God is, experientially.
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Today I want to speak to you about something every believer encounters at some point in their walk with God — the tension between what we believe about God and who He is, and what we are actually experiencing in real life. Many of us, especially in our African context, have been shaped by extremes of the prosperity gospel or have come from cultures where expressing pain, confusion, or raw emotion feels uncomfortable or even taboo. Because of this, when life becomes difficult, when prayers seem unanswered, or when God feels silent or distant, we don’t always know how to process it. We can feel alone, confused, disappointed, or even frustrated — unsure of how to express what’s really happening inside us and how to process who God is, experientially.
Faces of Anxiety (The Parent-Child Relationship) | Paul Nyamuda
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Faces of Anxiety (The Parent-Child Relationship) | Paul Nyamuda
Whether it’s a parent, leader, pastor, athlete, or salesperson, anxiety often drives four major areas: Over-control (micromanaging, over-preparing); Avoidance (not taking necessary risks); Perfectionism (overworking to avoid mistakes) and People-pleasing (excessive concern about approval).In this message we will explore the anxious parent and the anxious child, highlighting how this dynamic affects families. As parents we have the privilege of imparting many good things to our children. Sadly, often out of ignorance, we pass on negative things, one of which is anxiety. If many parents knew that anxiety is contagious, they would take ownership and address it. The Anxious Parent is generally overprotective, micromanaging every detail of a child’s life. This is often perpetuated by the fact that such an approach is often highly regarded and rewarded by those around them. They are envied by other parents as the model parents who are deeply involved in the child’s world. They have difficulty allowing children to take age-appropriate risks. Their children, as they get older, begin to clash with them as they feel they are being babied all the time. They constantly check on children’s whereabouts, grades, or friendships. They also have frequent “what if” scenarios about their safety or future. This is how anxiety works, they meditate on the worst-case scenario and then live in that emotional state. They typically feel like they are going to fail or have failed as a parent. Their sense of personal worth is tied to child’s success or safety. This results in a lot of anxiety, particularly because a lot of the child’s behaviour is beyond their control. They tend to ruminate by multiple mental replays of past parenting mistakes. They also have a fixation and extreme fear of having regrets later in life. This fuels their behaviour. Their lives are riddled with “Shoulds” and they have no revelation of guilt free motherhood or fatherhood. A powerful self-coaching question for them to ask is, “What shoulds have a placed on my parenting that Jesus hasn’t?”
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Today I want to speak to you about something every believer encounters at some point in their walk with God — the tension between what we believe about God and who He is, and what we are actually experiencing in real life. Many of us, especially in our African context, have been shaped by extremes of the prosperity gospel or have come from cultures where expressing pain, confusion, or raw emotion feels uncomfortable or even taboo. Because of this, when life becomes difficult, when prayers seem unanswered, or when God feels silent or distant, we don’t always know how to process it. We can feel alone, confused, disappointed, or even frustrated — unsure of how to express what’s really happening inside us and how to process who God is, experientially.
