In this episode of Healers With Humor, Candice and Shelly explore the often misunderstood expectations of healing. While we might hope for rainbows, butterflies, and quick resolutions, the reality of healing can be much more complex. The hosts share their personal experiences, including recent struggles, and discuss the truth about what healing really entails. They emphasize the importance of embracing the ups and downs, while offering practical tools and insights to support listeners on their own healing journeys.
Expectations vs. Reality of Healing
Candice and Shelly kick off the episode by reflecting on their initial expectations of healing, which involved visions of rainbows, unicorns, and instant relief. They candidly share that healing often involves challenges, discomfort, and even physical manifestations of emotional work. Both hosts highlight recent personal experiences with physical pain—Candice with digestive issues and Shelly with a limp—showing how healing isn't always as straightforward as we hope.
What Healing Really Is
Shelly talks about a few key concepts that frame the healing journey:
Healing is hard
Healing is not linear
Healing is your responsibility
Healing is possible
The hosts emphasize that healing is a deeply personal journey, filled with twists, setbacks, and triumphs. It's not just about feeling good, but about understanding yourself on a deeper level and accepting both the pleasant and uncomfortable truths that surface.
What Healing Has Done for Us
Candice and Shelly reflect on how their healing journeys have transformed their lives. For Candice, healing brought her out of an unconscious way of living and made her an active participant in her own life. Shelly shares how healing has deepened her relationships with herself and others, making her more compassionate, patient, and less judgmental.
Healing Takes Responsibility
A key theme in the episode is personal responsibility in healing. The hosts stress that while you can seek support from others, the work ultimately rests on your shoulders. Healing is about showing up for yourself, even when it’s difficult, and continuing the journey through highs and lows.
Special Highlights:
Candice and Shelly discuss how physical symptoms can serve as signals from the body that deeper healing is needed. Shelly shares a story about how a limp helped her realize the importance of balancing her masculine and feminine energy.
They also explore how healing can enrich relationships, bringing new levels of compassion, understanding, and connection to friendships and romantic partnerships.
Takeaways:
Healing is not always a smooth journey; it’s a process that requires patience, persistence, and a willingness to face discomfort.
Personal responsibility is crucial—no one else can do the healing for you, though you can have support along the way.
Healing is not just about feeling good; it’s about understanding yourself on a deeper level and becoming an active participant in your own life.
Final Thoughts:
Healing is hard, but it’s worth it. Candice and Shelly encourage listeners to embrace their healing journeys, no matter how challenging they may seem. Whether it’s through rituals like candle lighting, journaling, or simply sitting with discomfort, there are many tools available to help you along the way.
Call to Action:
If you're struggling to start or continue your healing journey, reach out to Candice and Shelly for support. They offer free consultations and resources to guide you through your personal healing process. Share your healing experiences and questions with them through comments or social media.
Connect with Us:
Candice
candice@indiglowsoul.com
Shelly
shelly@findingyourlighthealing.com