Can you really unlearn insecure attachment? Yes—and it starts with awareness, curiosity, and baby steps.

In this episode of Experts Explain Trauma, certified attachment specialist Bev Mitelman, M.A. returns to unpack one of the most common questions in trauma healing: “Why do I keep repeating the same patterns in relationships?”

Bev walks us through:

- What makes insecure attachment so hard to unlearn

- Why your subconscious runs the show (and how to change that)

- How to make small, sustainable shifts toward secure attachment

- Why emotional regulation—not perfection—is the key to freedom

With warmth and deep experience, Bev helps us see that real change is possible—and it doesn’t have to be overwhelming.

🔗 Learn more about Bev Mitelman:

Website: https://www.securelyloved.com

Instagram: https://instagram.com/securely_loved

Verified Therapist Profile: https://www.goodtherapy.org/therapists/profile/bev-mitelman-counselor

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