“Why do I keep ending up with people who hurt me?”
In this episode of Experts Explain Trauma, trauma educator Tim Fletcher breaks down the real reasons survivors unconsciously recreate cycles of abuse—and how to finally break free.
You’ll learn:
- How childhood trauma programs us to seek out unsafe people
- Why emotionally unavailable relationships feel “normal”
- What abandonment wounds do to our behavior in adulthood
- Why chasing love or validation often leads to rejection
- How trauma hijacks your brain chemistry—creating addiction-like cravings for toxic connection
- The key to rebuilding trust in yourself and finding real safety
About Tim Fletcher:
Tim Fletcher is the founder of RE/ACT (Recovery Education for Addictions and Complex Trauma). Known for his practical, no-fluff teaching style, Tim helps people understand complex trauma, addiction, and mental health with clarity and compassion.
A former engineer and pastor turned trauma educator, Tim draws from his own family’s experiences with mental illness and addiction, as well as decades of counseling work. His groundbreaking insights—like the 12 Basic Needs and 60 Characteristics of Complex Trauma—have helped thousands understand why they feel broken, and how to heal with the right tools and support.
Tim is passionate about helping people break free from destructive cycles and rebuild their lives from the inside out—with safety, support, and practical steps forward.
🔗 Connect with Tim:
Website: timfletcher.ca
YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@TimFletcher
Instagram/Facebook/TikTok: @TimFletcherCo