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Healing and Growing, Hand in Hand

Lisa Tickel

173 episodes

4 days ago

"Healing and Growing, Hand in Hand" is a podcast that aims to provide a supportive and transformative space for individuals on their journey of personal healing and growth. The podcast explores various aspects of emotional, mental, and spiritual well-being, and how these elements intertwine to shape our lives. Each episode features insightful conversations with experts, practitioners, and individuals who have experienced personal growth and healing. The host fosters an open and non-judgmental atmosphere, encouraging guests to share their unique stories and expertise.

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Experts Explain Trauma | Was My Abuser Really Bad? Understanding Abuse

Healing and Growing, Hand in Hand

17 minutes 3 seconds

1 month ago

Experts Explain Trauma | Was My Abuser Really Bad? Understanding Abuse

In this Experts Explain episode, trauma expert Dr. Tammy Oluyori unpacks one of the most confusing and painful questions many survivors ask: What if my abuser wasn’t always bad?

Using real-life analogies and clinical insight, Dr. Tammy explores the impact of "hot and cold" abuse, especially in childhood and caregiver relationships. She explains how inconsistency, confusion, and emotional manipulation can lead survivors to doubt their own reality—and why that doubt is part of the trauma itself.

You’ll learn:

- Why inconsistency is a form of abuse

- How this kind of trauma imprints confusion on the nervous system

- The link between gaslighting, self-doubt, and trauma response

- Why survivors must shift from asking "what if?" to "what is?"

This episode is a must-watch for anyone navigating the lasting effects of relational trauma or struggling to validate their own story.

📌 New episodes every Thursday on the Experts Explain series!

About Dr. Tammy Oluyori:

Dr. Tammy Oluyori is a UK based counselling psychologist with over 15 years of experience specializing in trauma recovery, specifically focusing on survivors of childhood trauma. Her practice emphasizes developing a deeper, more compassionate relationship with oneself as the cornerstone of healing. Dr. Oluyori believes that understanding oneself is the beginning of all wisdom, and she is dedicated to guiding her clients toward this understanding. She is committed to helping individuals achieve clarity, balance, and purpose in their lives, leading to a more wholesome and fulfilling existence.

Listen full episode with Dr. Tammy on Healing and Growing Hand in Hand podcast here:

https://youtu.be/ndNZQCsvL5I

Connect with Dr. Tammy:

Website: www.drtammyoluori.com

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/dr.tammy.oluyori

Ebook: Staying Rooted (https://drtammyoluyori.com/staying-rooted/)

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