Experts Explain Trauma | Why Trauma Survivors Mistake Validation for Love with Tim Fletcher

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Healing and Growing, Hand in Hand

Lisa Tickel

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"Healing and Growing, Hand in Hand" is a podcast that aims to provide a supportive and transformative space for individuals on their journey of personal healing and growth. The podcast explores various aspects of emotional, mental, and spiritual well-being, and how these elements intertwine to shape our lives. Each episode features insightful conversations with experts, practitioners, and individuals who have experienced personal growth and healing. The host fosters an open and non-judgmental atmosphere, encouraging guests to share their unique stories and expertise.

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Experts Explain Trauma | Why Trauma Survivors Mistake Validation for Love with Tim Fletcher

Healing and Growing, Hand in Hand

15 minutes 58 seconds

1 month ago

Experts Explain Trauma | Why Trauma Survivors Mistake Validation for Love with Tim Fletcher

Have you ever felt like you need others to approve of you to feel worthy or loved? You’re not alone.

In this week’s Experts Explain episode, trauma recovery expert Tim Fletcher breaks down how complex trauma—especially in childhood—rewires the brain to confuse validation with love, and why so many trauma survivors become stuck in cycles of people-pleasing, self-criticism, and external approval-seeking.

We explore:

- Why children in trauma learn love is conditional

- How the need for validation becomes a survival strategy

- Why self-criticism often replaces self-acceptance

- The real definition of validation (hint: it’s more about action than words)

- Practical tools for shifting from external validation to self-affirmation

- What to do when compliments feel uncomfortable or manipulative

- How to build trust, self-awareness, and internal safety

If you’ve struggled with self-worth, overthinking, or trusting your own value—this episode is for you.

About Tim:

Tim Fletcher is the Founder and President of RE/ACT (Recovery Education for Addictions and Complex Trauma). Originally an engineer, Tim transitioned into pastoral work before becoming a counselor specializing in complex trauma and addiction. Through his research and hands-on experience, Tim has developed groundbreaking tools and resources to help individuals understand and heal from the deep wounds of complex trauma.

Connect with Tim Fletcher:

Website: https://www.timfletcher.ca

YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/TimFletcher

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/timfletcherco

Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/TimFletcherCo

TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@timfletcher_co

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