Are you holding it together so well that no one sees how much you’re holding – especially when money stress is quietly piling on top of everything else?   Are you the one who keeps everything spinning – kids, work, home, parents, Christmas, birthdays – while quietly worrying about money in the background? In this episode of HealthyHer Money Mind, we explore what happens when mental load meets money stress, and the real cost of carrying it all on your own. We talk about the burnout, the silence, the “I should be coping” stories, and the way debt, bills, and financial pressure can make you feel trapped, guilty, or ashamed for not “doing better”. Together, we unpack: Why “busy” is often a code word for stress How constant decision-making leads to paralysis with bills, debt, and budgeting Simple filters to sort money decisions into “now, soon, later” What financial resilience really means in everyday life (not a buzzword, but five practical pillars) How language like “I’m so bad with money” keeps us stuck – and how to rewrite that story The emotional cost of always being the strong one, and why asking for help is not weakness We also share real support routes – from StepChange and PayPlan for debt, to Samaritans, Mind, Relate and Shout for emotional and relationship support – plus why so few people use work-based services like EAPs and financial coaching even when they’re free. This isn’t about fixing everything overnight. It’s about pressing pause, getting kinder with yourself, and taking one doable step towards clarity, calm, and support. You don’t have to hold it all together to hold it with care. HealthyHer Money Mind is where money and mental wellbeing sit at the same table – and change starts with one honest conversation.