In this episode, we explore the quiet but corrosive role that negativity plays in relationships — not just through conflict, but in the subtle daily ruptures that erode trust, intimacy, and emotional safety over time. Drawing from Gottman’s research, IMAGO relationship theory, and nervous system science, we unpack how negativity can show up emotionally, cognitively, physiologically, relationally, existentially, spiritually, and systemically. We challenge the idea that discomfort is always harmful, clarify the difference between harmful negativity and constructive truth-telling, and offer clear practices for eliminating negative patterns without falling into toxic positivity. This is about creating a sacred, secure space between you and your partner. A space where where truth can be spoken, pain can be repaired, and connection can grow.

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