If every attempt to talk turns into blame, shutdown, or conflict, you’re not alone and you’re not crazy. Defensiveness is more than just a bad habit; it’s a protective strategy rooted in deeper emotional wounds. We explore how this dynamic impacts connection, where it comes from, and most importantly, what you can do about it. You’ll learn how to communicate without triggering shame, reclaim your own power, and begin shifting the dynamic (even if your partner isn’t fully on board yet).