In this episode of Hoy! Aba Teka, Chef Rey and Cyra dive deep into the very real and often unspoken experience of parent guilt, that nagging feeling of not doing enough, not being present enough, or not being the “perfect” parent while trying to juggle work, long hours, and life. They share their own stories of late nights, long-distance work trips, and the emotional tug-of-war between providing for the family and wanting to spend more time with their kids. From OFW experiences and the struggles of modern parenting, to the difference between “mom guilt” and “dad guilt,” the couple opens up about how guilt shows up differently for each parent, and how communication, support systems, and realistic expectations keep them grounded. Joined by a sweet cameo from little Anuenue, the episode is a raw, funny, and relatable look at how parents carry love, responsibility, and guilt all at once.
The conversation also dives into:
Mom guilt vs. Dad guilt: why they feel guilt differently, and how roles shape emotional responses.
Work-life imbalance: long F&B hours, back-to-back business trips, and the heartbreak of missing daily moments.
OFW realities: the guilt of raising kids from afar and the loneliness of long-distance parenting.
Support systems: the importance of helpers, grandparents, and open communication so children feel safe and heard.
Managing expectations: teaching kids honesty, resilience, and that disappointment is part of life.
Mental health for parents: how guilt can motivate but becomes harmful when it turns chronic or unspoken.
Building trust at home: why parents should talk about emotions, admit exhaustion, and keep conversations open.
Treating helpers with respect: because fear leads to silence—and silence leads to bigger problems.
Parenting mindset: you can’t be everywhere, but intention, presence, and communication make all the difference.
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