Have you ever struggled with chronic background anger that unexpectedly erupts into uncontrollable rage? Does your anger negatively impact your relationships and personal happiness? In this compelling talk about anger management, we use the metaphor of a prickly tree to illustrate the nature of anger and explore practical strategies for turning anger into a positive force for change.
All emotions, including anger, are valid and carry important messages. When anger arises, it's like a persistent knock on the door that demands attention. If we choose to ignore these emotions, they can escalate into increasingly severe reactions. The intensity of our anger often correlates with our levels of background dissatisfaction, stemming from external factors like unmet expectations or internal conflicts like feelings of inadequacy, fear, and self-dislike.
One source of background dissatisfaction is the discrepancy between where we believe we should be and our current situation. These unmet expectations can lead to frustration, disappointment, and anger. By acknowledging these external factors and understanding their impact on our emotional well-being, we can develop healthier coping mechanisms and build emotional resilience.
Internal conflicts arise when we harbour negative feelings about ourselves. These internal struggles can cause us to create a façade while concealing our genuine emotions. Addressing these internal fears and insecurities is crucial in managing our anger effectively.To turn anger into a positive force for change, we must be willing to self-reflect and address external challenges and internal conflicts. By exploring the sources of our dissatisfaction and examining the personal narratives that contribute to our emotional responses, we can begin to heal and grow.
Instead of perceiving explosive anger as a negative experience, we should see it as a valuable message from ourselves, indicating a need for change. Recognising the significance of these emotional signals before they reach a point of destruction can help us navigate our emotions more constructively and find greater peace in our lives.If you’re ready to embark on a journey of self-discovery and personal growth, join me in exploring the transformative power of understanding, managing, and embracing anger. A prickly tree overlooking Canyonlands National Park triggered my inspiration!
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00:00 Introduction
01:37 There's something good about anger!
02:53 How bad does it have to become before you choose something different?
04:38 The message behind the anger
06:29 Where is your background irritation coming from?
09:12 The mask as a coping strategy. The grinning Cheshire cat.
10:05 Reality vs. expectations. Should I change reality or change my expectations?
11:31 How to begin
14:39 Learned shame
16:33 We are the average of our peer group
21:28 Forgive yourself
27:40 Benefits of being authentic
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