In this episode of the I Am Self-ish podcast, host Will Wright explores the dynamics of compassion, validation, and the importance of setting boundaries in both relationships and personal life.
He examines how the energy we bring into our acts of service often determines whether we feel fulfilled or drained, and how easily empathy can turn into emotional exhaustion when it lacks boundaries.
Will breaks down Level Four Energy as the space where we finally feel like we are making a difference, but also where the need for validation can quietly take over. He explains that sometimes the reason we give so much isn’t just because we care, but because we want to feel seen or valued in return. When love depends on validation, service starts to cost us more than it gives.
The conversation invites listeners to notice the difference between caring and controlling, and how creating boundaries doesn’t push people away—it protects the heart behind your empathy. True compassion inspires, but compassion without boundaries leads to burnout. Love without limits eventually breaks the person who’s always giving it.
This episode is a reminder that self-care is not selfish. It’s how we sustain our ability to love, serve, and connect with others without losing ourselves in the process.
Memorable insights:“Sometimes the reason you give so much isn’t just because you care.”“When your love depends on validation, your service starts to cost you.”“Boundaries that you create aren’t rejections—they are respect.”“You are tired because you haven’t learned where caring ends and control begins.”
Produced and Edited by Will WrightHost | Certified Life Coach & Stress Management CoachCreator of the I AM SELF-ISH™ Method
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