In this episode, Vanessa Spinarsky dives into what most people avoid: the truth that change isn’t blocked by willpower... it’s blocked by invisibility. We can’t shift what we’ve never slowed down enough to see.

Through honest stories, clinical insight, and the kind of emotional x-ray only a therapist-mom-human can bring, Vanessa explores how unconscious patterns quietly run the show: the over-functioning, the shutdowns, the chronic self-protection that once kept us safe but now keep us stuck.

She breaks down why capacity: emotional, nervous-system, mental capacity is the foundation for growth, and why most of us try to change from a dysregulated place that cannot support transformation.

This episode is an invitation to wake up from autopilot, meet your inner world with curiosity instead of criticism, and build the internal spaciousness required to actually witness your life… instead of just surviving it.

It’s not self-help. It’s self-seeing.