Have you been feeling the urge to reach out to that old friend you took distance from? As we move into the holidays it can be tempting to re-connect— send a quick message, extend an invite, or reopen the door with someone we’ve drifted from. But how do you know whether it’s a relationship worth revisiting… or one that’s better left gently in the past?

In this episode, we help you decide whether to re-engage with an old friend, or keep your distance. You’ll hear some important questions you need to ask yourself, real examples, and a grounded look at the difference between healthy discomfort and unhealthy self-abandonment.

In This Episode We Explore:

• How duty and obligation can both connect and confine us
• How to tell when a relationship brings more stress than support
• Why we need to think of our time and energy as "investments"
• How the people around you shape who you become
• Some key questions, like: Has anything actually changed?
• Getting honest about your standards and what you are willing to put up with

Reflection Questions to Consider:

1. What’s driving the urge to reconnect — guilt, habit, or expectation?
2. Do you have the capacity to carry someone who brings weight instead of warmth?
3. What kind of relationships do you believe in surrounding yourself with?

A Takeaway to Sit With:

You can love someone, care about them, and hold fond memories — and still choose distance. Protecting your peace can be an act of honesty, not rejection.

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