You’re not crazy. You’re trauma bonded.
In this episode of Sappy Hour, JB Copeland breaks down the psychological trap that keeps people stuck in toxic love loops... even when they know it’s not healthy.
This episode is for anyone who:
– Keeps missing someone who hurt them
– Feels addicted to emotional chaos
– Can’t stop blaming themselves after being left
– Is waiting for closure that may never comeIt’s not love. It’s your nervous system trying to survive.
And until you see the pattern, you’ll keep calling it “fate.”👁️🗨️
Topics & Undercurrents We Explore:
🔁 Trauma Bonding– Emotional addiction to inconsistency.
-Intermittent reinforcement & dopamine withdrawal
– “Highs and lows” mistaken for chemistry
“We are not addicted to the person. We’re addicted to the emotional rollercoaster they create.”
— Shahida Arabi, MA
⚠️ Survival Mode Disguised as Personality
– Apathy, disinterest, and detachment aren’t your identity
– They’re coping tools that once kept you safe
“Hyper-independence is the belief that asking for help makes you weak. But it’s often the wound talking.”
— Dr. Nicole LePera
🧠 Emotional Numbness & Burnout
– You can’t feel joy, but you also can’t feel pain
– You're emotionally exhausted
— not just from life, but from carrying relationships
🔁 Pattern Repetition & Cognitive Dissonance
– Why you keep attracting emotionally unavailable partners
– The war between what you feel and what you know💭 Self-Gaslighting & Shame Loops
– Downplaying your needs to keep the peace
– “Maybe I am too much…” becomes a silent script
“Shame is the lie someone told you about yourself.”
— Anaïs Nin
💔 Identity Crisis After a Breakup
– You’re not just grieving them... you’re grieving who you were with them
– What happens when the version of you that loved deeply is left behind?
🚩 The Fixer Complex & Emotional Breadcrumbing
– Attracting broken people to avoid facing your own wounds
– Staying for “just enough” — not because it's good, but because it’s familiar
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