Though people pleasing, can often develop as a result of childhood neglect and abuse. I firmly believe that it is not a good behavior to maintain, especially when you are able to recognize and gain awareness of how it developed in the first place and how it impacts the way you show up for yourself and in relationship with others. Failing to process and restructure this kind of distortion results in (imo) a steady increase in feelings of emptiness within yourself and creates a lack of genuineness in relationships. It stops you from giving yourself and others the truth about what you need to maintain a balanced lifestyle and foster healthy connections. It denies you the ability to access and evolve into the ways in which your authentic self needs the most. It denies you the ability to advocate for yourself and others when it is most appropriate. It denies you the authentic experience of living a life that truly fulfills you. It causes you to compromise values that are important to you. It fuels self abandonment and eventually causes you to be uncomfortable with trying to live a life that you’ve actually been yearning for. It destroys relationships and keeps you from experiencing all the beauty and love they have to offer. It causes you to continuously fall into patterns of dynamics where you consistently feel drained, because you always prioritize the needs of the relationship or person you’re in relationship with, before your own. Everyone, as an adult, has the obligation and responsibility of being aware of and knowing how to regulate their own physical, spiritual, mental and emotional health. So that when we come together, we are able to give accurate support and care without compromising ourselves and the integrity of connection.