Today we unpack compulsory heterosexuality (“comphet”)—how church culture, gender scripts, and fear of exclusion pushed us to date men, plan marriages, and mistake deep friendship for attraction. We share the slow, messy process of naming queerness, the survival calculus of staying in community, and why silence around sexuality harms everyone—including the Church. From youth group purity talk to adult deconstruction, this is a candid look at desire, honesty, and building a life that actually fits.

00:00 Small Group: Rose and Thorn

02:10 Understanding Compulsory Heterosexuality

06:30 Struggles with Identity and Relationships

24:05 The Impact of Conversion Therapy

29:22 Struggles with Sexuality and Church Teachings

31:36 Mental Health Risks for Queer Individuals in the Church

44:03 Historical and Social Context of Queer Relationships

46:31 Critique of Church's Stance on Sexuality

53:09 Conversion Therapy and Its Rejection

01:00:32 Support from Other Faith Communities