This episode, Kimberly wades straight into the deep end of a topic most people would rather avoid: negotiating what you want in sex and relationships without losing yourself in the process. She coaches through a real-world situation ripped from the comments section: what do you do when you hate porn, your partner wants it, and now you feel boxed into a corner where you either send nudes or risk them looking elsewhere?
There’s no “right answer” here - just a whole lotta gray area, messy feelings, and questions about whose values, boundaries, and needs get to matter. Kimberly brings research, zero B.S., and her own experience with codependency, religious baggage, and neurodiversity into it, reminding you that you don’t owe anyone compliance, and “compatibility isn’t a moral victory march.”
You get permission to unpack the pressures (and shame) you’re carrying, get real about what you want, and ask: “Am I bending myself to keep someone, or is this actually a fit?” No highlight-reel quick fixes, but just some spicy honesty and an invitation to stop making your needs a negotiation.
Ready to stop bending yourself into a pretzel trying to “fit” someone else’s mold? Book a free 1:1 consultation with Kimberly at www.kimberlymathis.com, or DM @theKimberlyMathis on Instagram to see how coaching can help you navigate your own messy relationship or sex-life crossroads.