Welcome to your 20s, where one friend is getting married, another is backpacking Bali, someone’s climbing the corporate ladder, and someone else is… still trying to figure out what day it is. Meanwhile, you’re wondering if liking each other’s Instagram stories still counts as “keeping in touch.”

In this episode, I get real about the chaos of maintaining friendships in your 20s, why it feels like you need a part-time job just to make plans, and how the holy trinity of friendship (proximity, timing, energy) slowly crumbles the moment you leave school.

But it’s not all doom and gloom — I talk about what actually keeps friendships alive (hint: it’s not tagging each other in memes, though that helps), how to know when to hold on vs. let go, and why “quality over quantity” is the mantra we should all tattoo on our foreheads.

If you’ve ever stared at your group chat wondering if you guys are still besties or just really dedicated lurkers, this one’s for you.