Loving without going blind Not all love is blind, so here are some ideas for loving without the bandages on your eyes: Have a deep connection with yourself. This means putting time into working on what you’re focused on, and your internal monologue. That way you won’t forget that you’re important and unique to the people who love you. You’ll also be able to truly love someone else, not just a blank slate your imagination fills in however it wants. Set limits. This is about being clear about what you want, and expressing that to your partner. It means being assertive. It’s important to recognize that the other person has strengths and weaknesses. Don’t objectify your partner. We all have good and bad qualities. Don’t try to do more than you can. Give as much as you can, without overdoing it. Loving someone else doesn’t mean sacrificing everything you have. Leaving behind your own life should never be an option. It’s possible to love someone without neglecting yourself. Work on yourself so you’ll have something to offer them. When you love yourself, and know yourself, you’ll be able to be your best self. In an indirect way, you’ll also be the best you can be for them.