JAMES and Sarah first got together in high school and have been together for nine years. They appeared like any other couple growing up together, and moving away for college, but that all changed one year ago when Sarah's gay best friend Hunter expressed his feelings for both of them. The group dynamic began as roommates, and Sarah explained how Hunter broached the subject, "We were sitting down packing and he said 'I've got something to tell you guys, I have feelings for you both'. And James went, 'huh?' And I said 'same!' without skipping a beat." For Hunter, joining a formally straight, closed relationship was discombobulating for his identity, given his sexuality, "I knew I was gay, so I was a little confused", he said. Sarah had also been inwardly struggling with her romantic feelings towards Hunter but had questioned herself, thinking, "One, I'm with James, two, he's gay". James had never been with a man before, and it took a while for him to accept his attraction for Hunter too, learning how to be affectionate and open to a man. James and Sarah now define themselves as bi-sexual, and James said he is bi-romantic. Despite finding their groove with each other as a three, and becoming happier for it, many of their loved ones who had seen James and Sarah monogamously together for many years were worried about the sudden change to their status quo. "One of my friends thought it was an April Fools prank, she was weirded out by it", Sarah said. "She was asking if I was okay". Her family questioned if adding a third partner was her choice or James's, saying things like "Is this for you, or is this for him?" The throuple have now been together for a year and are going stronger than ever. James said, "I feel like when we first started out we were worried about how we were perceived and how our friends and family would think about us, but at the end of the day we are just doing what makes us happy and if people want to judge, so be it."

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