On this 'Making of a Coach', Tobi meets career coach and coach trainer Lucy Higgins for a coaching demo that explores restlessness using the saboteur assessment from Positive Intelligence. Drawing on the Introduction, we frame Lucy’s directive career change program for ambitious mothers and how she resolves blockers like unhelpful beliefs with lightweight mindset tools. Together, Lucy and Tobi run a live coaching demo around the Restless and Hyper‑Achiever patterns, aiming for presence and peace of mind during early parenthood. You’ll hear how a shared language from Positive Intelligence can carry through a coaching journey without needing the full accreditation program.

Key Learnings:

• Integrate the saboteur assessment early to create shared language for your career change program; contract for a short coaching demo and use it to surface “judge + accomplice” patterns like Restless or Hyper‑Achiever.
• Translate insights into simple mindset tools: name the trigger thought, thank the saboteur’s old survival role, then practice a “switch‑off” ritual that redirects attention to meaningful connection (e.g., family time) using Positive Intelligence language.
• Build the client’s “healthy voice” from values and strengths; borrow Adult state from transactional analysis and ventral vagal cues to anchor presence, and repeat the coaching demo language in follow‑ups to reinforce new habits.

Resources:

• Lucy Higgins’s Website: https://lucyhigginscoaching.co.uk/
• Lucy Higgins’s LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/lucy-higgins-coaching/
• Positive Intelligence's Saboteur Assessment: https://www.positiveintelligence.com/saboteurs/
• Find your Coaching Tool: https://metaFox.eu
• Try the metaFox Strengths Discovery: https://strengths-discovery.com
• Connect with Tobi on LinkedIn: https://linkedin.com/in/tobiasweghorn

Episode Chapters:

00:00 Seeking Peace Of Mind And Restlessness

00:02 Intro: Lucy’s Directive Career Change Program

00:05 Mindset Tools And When To Use The Saboteur Assessment

00:09 How The Positive Intelligence Test Works

00:13 Choosing The Restless Saboteur

00:18 Coaching Demo Goal: Presence Over Restlessness

00:21 Judge And Accomplice Saboteurs Explained

00:26 Costs Of Restlessness And Finding Balance

00:30 Switching Off: What Already Works For Tobi

00:37 Beyond The Tool: TA And Polyvagal In Practice