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Episode 14 Summary: Today’s episode is going to be really fun! One of the most common issues that comes into our church office relates to what we like to call the “division of labor” aka. balancing roles & responsibilities within the home & marriage. We cannot wait to share some tips for how to navigate conversations & explore how to better divide the many tasks required to manage your family life together.
Resources from today’s episode:
Today we looked at:
1. How family of origin contributes to our division of labor
2. The Shift of Roles in the Modern Era
3. Determining Roles & Responsibilities within Your Home
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Episode 14 TOOL: Grab 2 blank pieces of paper and draw a line vertically down the middle. Independently list in one column all the roles & responsibilities you do to serve your family. Don’t skimp on this – do the work and think hard about every big & small way you serve. Next in the other column write every single thing your spouse does to serve your family – all their roles & responsibilities. The more thorough you can be, the better.
Next: Come back together to compare and discuss your lists. As you look at the paper here are some questions to consider:
-Did you both agree on the roles you wrote down for each other?
-Did your spouse list each of your roles accurately?
Then affirm, apologize (as needed), and work together to create a complete list of responsibilities.
Next: With the complete list, consider these questions:
Do you notice a huge gap in responsibilities between the two of you?
Is that gap causing undue stress on one spouse?
Do you notice immediate adjustments that can be made?
This is a perfect opportunity to use your assertiveness & active listening skills.
After doing this IF you determine a few changes need to be made OR if you are newly married or engaged and are just beginning to discuss roles consider the following discussion/journal questions to determine what division of labor best serves your family.
Discussion and/or Journal Questions:
-What is driving your current roles/responsibilities (tradition, culture, habit)
-What do you each enjoy doing?
-Do one of you have a skill for a specific chore?
-What is your availability to do certain chores in this season?
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